Weddings

6 Ways To Be A Happy Bride!

   

Nobody plans to be bad-tempered, or grumpy on their wedding day, yet we see them often – the unpleasant, difficult and perfectionist bride who holds family, friends and especially wedding vendors to ransom, all in the name of having a perfect wedding.

Planning a wedding rouses a cocktail of emotions capable of making you mutate into a Bridezilla, so before your wedding, take some time to reflect and ask yourself, what kind of bride you want to be. Will the Bridezilla awaken in you?  It’s your choice.  Be the bride you want to be with these tips;

Delegate

Acknowledge the fact that you can’t do everything by yourself,  so delegate every aspect of the wedding to people who can take care of things, while you are busy being the bride. Trying to be involved in everything on your big day will only leave you overwhelmed and cranky.

Plan, Plan and Plan.

Don’t leave any stone unturned about the necessary arrangement for the wedding; make sure you crosscheck your checklists few days before the wedding to be sure you didn’t leave anything out. Also be on the same page with your vendors to avoid any surprises that may ruin your mood, be sure they understand exactly what you want and that they have the expertise to deliver their services with professionalism.

Surround Yourself With Positive People.

From your bridal train to the friends that will be around you, make sure they are truly happy for you and will do anything to make the day a success. Enlist solid friends to be by your side, friends that will protect you from negative and pessimistic people who can rouse the bridezilla in you with their attitudes and comments. Your girlfriends should put themselves second on your wedding day, so they can be there for you 100%.

It’s Your Day, Enjoy It

Don’t be nervous and fidgety; because your friend’s wedding cake collapsed doesn’t mean yours will. And in case something goes wrong accept the fact that no matter how checked-off your to-do list is, sometimes surprises are inevitable. Let go of your perfectionism and be delighted by spontaneity, be peaceful be calm, and have great fun.

Be Comfortable

You should never take your comfort for granted when shopping for your wedding dress, shoes and other accessories. When you are convinced on the cuts, fabrics, styles and colors that will enhance your figure and make you feel great, go for it. Don’t allow someone to talk you out of what works best for you and think twice before you make compromises. It is very important that you feel comfortable on your wedding day; it will be a lot more exciting when you are in a high spirit and you feel really good about yourself.

Refresh

When you are planning your wedding you will have an overwhelming list of what to do, and because you are trying to do as much as you can in a short while, it could leave you exhausted. Don’t go on with that feeling of exhaustion. No matter how tight your schedule is, find a peaceful and private time to be alone with yourself. Spend time alone to refuel your spirit, think, meditate, pray, and escape from the stress of planning the wedding

Re-assure yourself of your  goals and what you want to achieve, you will sure feel refreshed and energized ready to face your big day with inner joy. Carving out time for a ‘quiet time’ can seem an unattainable luxury, yet it is within your grasps if you really want it.

Source –   Femme Lounge Library

10 Comments

10 Comments

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    anon

    March 11, 2010 at 4:02 pm

    seriously, i think brides should read this, i am tired seeing of angry , bitchy brides!

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    Bisi

    March 11, 2010 at 4:05 pm

    good one! whats the point if a bride cannot be happy and relaxed on their wedding day. these make great sense

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    Adunni

    March 11, 2010 at 4:08 pm

    i quite agree with the fact that a bride need to surround herself with positive people, the people around her matters a lot. she should also relax and enjoy her day, it can only happen once.

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    Myne Whitman

    March 11, 2010 at 7:30 pm

    Delegate delegate delegate, plus positive and helpful people. Finally relax!

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    Famuyiwa Abolaji

    March 13, 2010 at 2:53 am

    I cant even kill myself, d best is to try my best n 2 talk 2 God extensively to about it.

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    Abim

    March 13, 2010 at 8:38 am

    Another interesting read from Femme Lounge. Tips 2 and 5 should form every bride-to-be’s (B2B) watchword. Wedding day anger/crankiness can be avoided even for a bride who micromanaged most aspects of the wedding, if the “Plan Plan, Plan” was done and finalized well ahead of time. Otherwise, delegating is definitely to the B2B’s best interest. After all is said and done; it is going to be the bride and groom’s day, and they would be the ones to relive the day, so were I a vendor or a wedding planner, I would not see it as such a huge deal or meddlesome for a B2B to be involved in the planning process of her own wedding, granted that she remembers to be respectful to her equally respectful vendors. A cranky bride is a sign of bad planning; either someone micromanaged her wedding when overseeing things isn’t her strong suit, or there was a breakdown in communication between the vendors and the bride. My rule of thumb for every B2B is to:
    a) Pray about the process you are about to start.
    b) Identify what you want, what you can sacrifice, and what you don’t want
    c) Create and prioritize a checklist with realistic deadlines that factors in the available resources (time, able hands, and money).
    d) Leave at least a week before the wedding to relax with your G2B,
    e) Go over your list at a later time, after all the excitement of getting engaged has settled a little, and you have had time to consult with the people that matter in your wedding (parents, siblings, close families/friends) and make appropriate modifications,
    f) Identify those items that you know for certain that you can handle given the time that you have, and do several test runs (make up, hair, DIY IVs…),
    g) Call reputable vendors, and do at least two test runs with them. Do not make hasty decisions. Give yourself a day or so to mull over your options before signing any contract/sealing any deal.
    h) Check with vendor the timeline they need to be able to deliver (florists, dress boutiques, IVs…), and add 1 to 2 weeks to whatever they say,
    i) Get the ball rolling, and check in with vendors appropriately to ensure that you are on the same page,
    j) Have a plan B for every item on your list.
    k) It’s the last 1 week that you have to the wedding. Pamper yourself and do something exotic with your groom. Something that you two can remember at the reception venue while some party pooper is busy sharpening his/her skill, and just smile away. (get your mind out of the gutter, please. :-))
    l) It’s your wedding day. Have fun and be graceful to your guests. You don’t want long faces in your wedding pics, I am sure. Let the snide remarks from that toxic individual that you were not able to keep off the guest list roll off of you. S/he can’t help it. Relax and have fun. It’s just a party, after all! You have planned well, so whatever does not turn out as you expected could not have been helped. And… the marriage has to start out well.

    If, as a B2B, you cannot do these and still say sane, it’s okay too. It’s a lot to handle, anyway. “Delegate”. Hire a wedding planner, while enjoying showing off your bling. Someone you feel comfortable relating with. A planner who respects your opinion, but would hold your hands when you need some hand-holding. I would recommend knowing what you want, as opposed to leaving it up to the planner to figure you out.

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    anighenattraf

    March 16, 2010 at 1:39 am

    Perfect work,

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    bukky

    March 18, 2010 at 6:52 am

    this is just timely for me

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    Nifemi

    March 19, 2010 at 12:24 am

    I strongly concur wt ds article cos some brides unnecessary overworked themselves all in d bid 2partake of evry assignment dtz bn delegated 2ppl u’v concluded capable ,efficient &trustworthy…all u need do is let dem av a mental picture of hw u want dt DAY 2b den trust GOD 2C dem 2ru cos d truth is u can’t b der 4 everything o!
    Finally Prov 3:5 don’t lean on ur understanding bt trust in GOD 4evn d most trivial thn…
    keep smiling ,stay joyful cos dt DAY wdn’t repeat itself in history.
    Mwaaaaaaaaah! Luv y’all

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