Someone once said ’’Motherhood is a wonderful responsibility—but it can also be exhausting, confusing, infuriating and downright funny.’’ No doubt, mothers have the toughest job in the whole wide world; everyday comes with new challenges and new perspectives.
My favorite motherhood quote of all times, says “The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new’’. ~Rajneesh
Today Femme Lounge celebrates mothers all over the world and talks to Feyi, a young and passionate mother about her journey so far.
Name – Oluwafeyikemi Ogundeji
Child – Abigail Ogundeji (5months)
Tell us a little about you – My name is Oluwafeyikemi Ogundeji and i am married to the most wonderful guy I’ve ever met, Olumide. I’m a Physiotherapist by profession but I also have a deep passion for design and i am probably best known for my handicrafts. I live in the United Kingdom.
What’s do you do? – I currently run a crafts business and also do some interior design.
Describe Motherhood in few words – A tasking, life-changing but extremely rewarding experience.
How has motherhood changed your life? – Let’s start with the most obvious change – my waistline! I’ve gone up one dress size and my hourglass figure has almost become a thing of the past. Lol! Seriously though, I now have much less time for my work and other things and have had to master the art of multi-tasking. I also have less freedom of movement ‘because I have to take my baby with me everywhere. On a positive note, having a child has helped me make many more friends. I guess that’s because it’s a great conversation starter.
What are the daily challenges you face as a mother? – It can be very challenging to give my baby the attention she wants, keep the house neat and tidy, do some personal work, cook and still have time with my hubby when he gets home. It’s a tough balancing act.
Your greatest strengths that has helped you in being a mother – I consider myself a hardworking person and that has helped a lot.
Your greatest weakness that sometimes doesn’t help – I can sometimes get a bit impatient when my daughter doesn’t settle down quickly and I’ve got lots of work to do. It always ends up making both of us more irritable. I’ve learnt that holding out for just a little longer can save a whole lot of stress.
Do you sometimes have fears about your kids? What are the fears, how do you overcome them? – I sometimes get concerned about how difficult it could be to raise her to be a godly, uncompromising person in a society that’s morally dying. I just remind myself that the same God who gave her to me is able to give me the wisdom to train her properly.
Share with us one of your best motherhood moments – I’ve got lots of cherished moments but one of the best one’s was the first time my daughter actually looked into my eyes and smiled at me (not one of those random baby smiles). I knew she recognised me as her mum and I felt a deep connection with her at that moment. It was so sweet.
Share with us one of the most annoying moments you have had as a mother – I’ve got several annoying moments, most of which consist of her crying for no apparent reason despite my petting and cuddling, especially in public places. I love my daughter to pieces but really can’t stand the excessive crying.
What do you enjoy most about motherhood? – The giggles, the cuddles, breastfeeding, the “awww, your baby is so cute!” comments from total strangers, watching my baby grow every day, dressing her up……….
What do you enjoy least about it? – The hard work and sleep deprivation
How has motherhood affected your romantic life? – Our romantic nights out have become family nights in because we’re ‘stuck’ with my daughter, and we can hardly have a good heart to heart conversation without being interrupted. She has also got the very special talent of playing up at the exact time we start getting cosy. Naughty girl! Well, I guess there’s always a price to pay for having such a beautiful child. I’ve also found that it can be easy to divert all my attention to my daughter, unknowingly neglecting my husband.
What significant life lessons have you learnt on this journey? – I’ve learnt that to be happy and fulfilled in life, i have to be like a child – open, honest, completely trusting, full of faith and very forgiving.
What do you think are the success essentials for today’s young mothers? – I think it’s essential for every mother to be patient, watchful of her child’s associations no matter how young the child is and above all very prayerful.