Someone once said ’’Motherhood is a wonderful responsibility—but it can also be exhausting, confusing, infuriating and downright funny.’’ No doubt, mothers have the toughest job in the whole wide world; everyday comes with new challenges and new perspectives.
My favorite motherhood quote of all times, says “The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new’’. ~Rajneesh
Today Femme Lounge celebrates mothers all over the world and talks to Seyi, a young and passionate mother about her journey so far.
Name – Oluwaseyi Bex-Banjo
Child – Oluwasekemi Paula Bex-Banjo
Tell us a little about you – I studied Philosophy at Olabisi Onabanjo University. I am married and blessed with a beautiful daughter.
What do you do? – I currently work with Consolidated Breweries Limited, I am a Personal Assistant.
Describe Motherhood in few words – Motherhood is an emotional rollercoaster ride with all the highs and lows, twists and turns. However, unlike your typical two-minute ride, this one lasts a lifetime. It’s the most rewarding, humbling, challenging, revealing, spiritual, exhausting, exciting, terrifying, rejunvenative, important endeavor one can perform but never perfect.
How has motherhood changed your life? – In so many ways, motherhood has been a mixed bag of emotions for me; I find the experience challenging, inspiring, full of super love yet requires super, super energy and patience. My adorable daughter has taught me that simple things in life makes you happy and content but most importantly there is now purpose and goals to achieve.
They are no longer measured by how much money we make, what car we drive or how high we can climb the corporate ladder, it’s a bigger task of how to raise my daughter to be a respected, kind hearted, outgoing, happy and healthy individual.
I’m already thinking about the day she turns 16, 18, 21, gets married and has kids! How proud and lucky we will feel to be her parents!! She is the light of our lives, nevertheless the demands of every day lives still requires us to juggle our careers and maintain a certain level of our own identity and interest BUT my daughter is the 1st person in my mind and the last at the end of each day!
What are the daily challenges you face as a mother? – I must say as a working mum, going by my daily chore is not easy at all. I have to wake up early enough to prepare her meals for the day, at times I wake up as early as 4.30 am, and it is really hectic. I also rush down to her school after work, and I have to make sure she gets home every day, but I am not complaining, it gives me great joy.
Your greatest strengths that has helped you in being a mother – My greatest strengths are displayed in my relationships – in sowing love and life, in holding the family together, in nurturing and caring. It is women who truly mould the society – through motherhood. There is no more important job in the whole world than being a mother… neither is there a more complex job. Mother Teresa said, “We cannot do great things, but we can do small things with great love.” Mothers do it daily.
Your greatest weakness that sometimes doesn’t help – My weakness is my temper, but I am trying to control it.
Do you sometimes have fears about your kids? What are the fears, how do you overcome them? – With God I do not have any fear, I believe that whether I am there with my child or not, He has always been in charge and He shall continually be.
Share with us one of your best motherhood moments – One of my best moment as a mother was the day my daughter received the prize for being an outstanding student in her class. She was in the play group then and they don’t give them the regular type of report card, the one given to them is just a kind of report card that shows how well they are coping in school and all, In her case she did exceptionally well and the school could not ignore that fact.
When they wanted to give the prize, the teacher described how the pupil has been doing well in class, the name was mentioned and behold it was my daughter, I was moved to tears and I felt so proud to be her mother.
Share with us one of the most annoying moments you have had as a mother – you get so many of them, I do not like to refer to those moment as annoying, especially when they are still growing up. As a mother one need to be very patient and understanding, with these, you can never be annoyed with them.
What do you enjoy most about motherhood? – Everyday is an adventure in which I want my child to discover life and how to help others and herself, I thank God everyday for this opportunity to make a difference in her live and for the difference she makes in mine. We are all teachers and we are all students. As I teach my child to grow up, she teaches me how to keep those childlike qualities that make us all alive and free and ready for the next adventure. Thank you for giving me this opportunity to let everyone know how blessed it is to have the role as a mother.
What do you enjoy least about it? – I enjoy every bit of it.
How has motherhood affected your romantic life? – It has not affected my romantic life in anyway, motherhood and romance are different things entirely, one should not disturb the order, the fact that you want to take care of your child does not mean your spouse should be neglected.
What significant life lessons have you learnt on this journey? – Patience, understanding, trust and perseverance, with these four your family will do very well.
What do you think are the success essentials for today’s young mothers? – Often times, many of the roles that women embody cannot be delegated, so as mothers we all struggle with many jobs daily. Some mothers work for over ten hours daily, they leave the house in the morning while their children are still asleep and they don’t return until it is well after dinnertime. Regardless of what the personal situation is, many mothers take on way too much. When will enough be enough? I must ask,
Let us focus on spending time with our family and stop worrying about the busy tasks that fill our days. I admit to the fact that we need money to make our children comfortable, but we should also have it at the back of our mind that these children need us much more than we need money. Whatever we do, be it work, business, school, e.t.c. Let us create time for our family. Secondly let us relinquish control of certain situations,