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The Ladies Night Market


A telephone conversation with my elder sister got me thinking……we were discussing various marriages (ours inclusive) and their outcomes or impending futures, and she said….Getting married is comparable to shopping in a late night market. That struck a chord in me

Getting married can be likened to shopping for goods at night. In a night market, you have sellers with various motives, some are there to really sell (because they are too poor to have a stall to themselves); some are there to make extra gain (they like to exhaust all their goods in one day), and some are there to sell off bad/ adulterated goods with the cover of darkness as their protection. The list is endless but the striking thing about all these sellers is: you will never know their real intention; you can only assume and hope.

You buy yourself a good; you get home and straight away peel off the wrap: you are lucky you find a perfect ware and you consider yourself having done a good job. Some of us would be quietly contented with our brilliant purchase, while some of us would seize the opportunity to get our friends together and tell them how smart we were at the market and how we carefully scrutinized the ware and ensured we got the best, despite the darkness….we simply can’t help but make an impression on our friends.

Some of us are too tired to open the good that same night, we drop it on top of the kitchen cabinet and let it wait till the next morning. Some of us are even so tired, we dump it in the refrigerator and we completely forget about it….maybe we are lucky it doesn’t go bad. For those of us that check our good in the morning, we might just notice a little dent and think, ohh it can still be managed. We never throw it out, then the dent turns into a crack and then into a mess….and we keep managing it. Some of us would even brandish our mess into a museum artifact and for the gutted and fearful one, they don’t hesitate to deny that the dent has always being there…..they become liars, free will liars and seek to keep the truth to themselves alone, some of us wouldn’t even mind if this dent occasionally scratch our flesh and sometimes cause a lesion on our skin, we endure

Some of us, see the dents and right there, make up their mind that the good was just going to be needed as long as it is useful, and don’t hesitate to throw it out as soon as we see the dent turning to a crack.

Some good items even turn bad along the line and some bad ones could suddenly become priceless and useful.

The possible list of reactions we can get from our late night shopping is endless, but the decision we make is sorely ours. Our shopping event can turn ironic, as we begin to see our purchased good take shape.

If you purchased bad, may be with God…. It would change for good!

If you purchase good… lucky you, please care for it

Writer – Tunbosun Oke

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  1. oluwaseun757@yahoo.com'

    oluwaseun ola

    October 3, 2010 at 11:12 pm

    Am not married yet but I find from marriages I have observed, that the illustration in this article is just perfect.
    God help us be clear-headed enough (&nt 2 intoxicated by love) 2 notice som signs one wud still observe at the night mkt, if only we paid a bit more attention e.g: texture,smell of products etc
    However, for people who’ve already purchased goods- whatever the outcome- wonderfully good or not-so-good, God grant us wisdom on how to best handle the good. So help us God.

  2. ogo.okonji@gmail.com'


    October 4, 2010 at 10:39 am

    The illustration is totally on point!
    Thanks for sharing…

    May God give us eyes that can see in the dark…to decipher the right/needed from the wrong/needless

  3. tolucci10@yahoo.com'


    October 4, 2010 at 12:19 pm

    i love this , this proverb is one i used to hear from my mum in her words ‘ oja okuku ni igbeyawo’ , then i never knew the meaning but now as a young lady in the single market , i have gotten to know how it is , but thank God , we can always rely on Him to lead us and illuminate our paths so as to choose right.

  4. miajiamah@yahoo.com'


    October 4, 2010 at 8:09 pm

    Read this article and it real made sense to me. A lot of couples are just in marriages enduring a lot of things that are not suppose to be endured, most people rushed into marriages cos of one pressure or the other, most times lady’s just want to bear MRS at all cost not minding the outcome. May God open our eyes to see and may he deliver those already into it.

  5. ourniyi_706@yahoo.com'

    ola oni

    October 4, 2010 at 9:16 pm

    if you want to get a good product, you have to be a good product yourself, plus God, then you are good to go….. Nyc 1

    • talk2nana@yahoo.com'


      October 11, 2010 at 1:16 pm

      i agree with you there, some people have a long list o the kind of product they want but never for once think of how valuable they are even to the product God help us all

  6. r_mxl@yahoo.com'


    October 5, 2010 at 4:17 am

    Thumbs up to the writer it is a very true thing about the market analogy and having had friends who dated and married on impulse (happily single and unattached myself ) it is important also to consider why we are shopping apart from what we end up buying; since a good product may end up been inappropriate and bad for us because we didn’t need it and then again a bad product is bad no matter what twist or spin we put on it. LOL

  7. ola.olatona1@hotmail.com'


    October 5, 2010 at 7:41 am

    …am just short of words…..this is nothing but the truth!….may God help us all and help us help ourselves too.

  8. chidinma_marthins@yahoo.co.uk'


    October 5, 2010 at 3:31 pm

    Very true…..one has to be very careful. Look properly before you leap…

  9. loaded4christ@hotmail.com'


    October 6, 2010 at 10:32 pm

    Dt was on pt. ws askin myself sm questions jst dis evnin abt dis marriage thing. it jst seems lik one is bin too selective ova who to say yes to. Bt d truth of d matter, beta late dan sori! it is beta to tk ur time, check 4 necessary details (no matter hw dark d mkt is)& allow God to lead u as u mk ur decision dan bin hasty only to regret later.

  10. Musai_s@yahoo.com'


    October 9, 2010 at 6:25 pm

    May God help us single ladies most xpecially. Bcos alot of evil guys are out ther.

  11. zkxwrgyu@gmail.com'

    Brisbane bookkeeping

    July 11, 2013 at 6:10 pm

    Yeah, I see the point of it all… thanks for sharing 🙂

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