I was watching an episode of the popular reality show “Keeping up with the Kardashians”, and something in that episode actually inspired me to write this piece. Kris bought a whooping four thousand dollar black dress for a party and yet held on to Bruce’s (her husband) credit card to stop him from spending frivolously on himself.
I think that was selfish, don’t get me wrong, I’m all for female empowerment, but in this case, not at the expense of the husband, marriage and family!
Ladies , we are to be protected , loved and cared for , but ‘please’ don’t take advantage of this , and before you crucify me for being an unworthy member of the gender , I plead that you have an open mind as you read , and guys please do not quote me out of context or use this as an excuse for any incompetence.
From time immemorial, women were seen as the weaker sex. They were the ones to be pampered, cuddled, loved, showered with gifts, etc. They took care of the home and were responsible for the children while men went into the world to make ends meet for their families. This was the order of things, which earned the woman the fond endearment in Igbo land of Ori aku (Enjoyer of wealth), Apkuna Anwu (One who does not come out under the sun) .
This I believe was and is a worldwide practice. The question is “is this wrong?” In all honesty, I would say NO. Does that mean that a woman’s life is easy… far from it!
Back to Kris Jenner, truth is there are women who exhibit such characteristics. These women demand and demand and give nothing back. These are the women I have a problem with.
I refuse to understand when a young student who is not working asks her boyfriend (a struggling young student also) to give her 15 thousand naira to buy brazillian weave-on because that is in vogue. Did he commit a crime by liking you? As a lady you must be considerate and realistic.
It is as if suddenly some women morphed into something undesireable, something Wiccan, the essence of a woman is to make a positive change, to add value not demand all the value, to take a stand and not be a push-over whilst still maintaining your softness.
Writer : Sandra Odimegwu
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