Lets Call a Spade a Spade About Being Fat



It amuses me to no end when people try to sugar coat something or try to be ‘politically correct’. I sincerely believe the world would be a better place if we all learned to say the truth in a deferential manner.

Recently, I saw a friend I haven’t seen in a long time and of course she had changed drastically, she was now fat. Yes, I said the F word. Not large/big boned, not PHAT (pretty, hot and tempting) but purely and simply fat. She got upset and said I had no right to call her fat. I proceeded to explain to her that being fat wasn’t necessarily a bad thing and calling fat another name didnt’t take away the fact that she was fat.

I find it highly ridiculous when people try to use politically correct terms…please call a spade a spade and NOT a digging tool. I think it stems from the fact that naturally, human beings like to deceive themselves about their current situation. I honestly think people should be fat and proud if they want to be. If you are not proud of it, then do something sensible and reasonable about it.
For example, I am short and proud and take no offense when I am called short. Seriously? I should be angry because you call me short? Am I not short? You would find it ridiculous if I told you ‘I am not short, I am just vertically challenged’. I can see you rolling on the floor and gasping for breath, it is ridiculous.

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I am not promoting unhealthy eating and the like, I am fully aware that some people’s weight is hereditary; some have slow metabolism rates, etcetera. Nevertheless, my point is be comfortable in your own skin and do not let other people determine the way you feel about yourself. (I have been constantly called a short, thin bully and frankly, I believe my scorners are entitled to their opinions however flawed…although, if you call me that to my face, you would run into my fist 5 times).


Writer – Toyin Agunbiade blogs at http://teeweezee.blogspot.com

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    • honeydame1@gmail.com'


      February 9, 2012 at 5:26 pm

      I can’t help agreeing with you for the most part. The part of it that got me sold is “.some spades should be called spades..but in certain situations…your honesty should be loaded with tact….lots of it”. It pretty much sums it up.

      I don’t even know how else to say it.

      You may tell your sister that she is fat, even your best friend. But that classmate you are meeting up with after 10 years of non communication? It is best to just keep mum or comment on how he/she has added some weight.

      You may call a spade a spade, but it still doesn’t nullify the fact that it is also digging tool!

  1. dynamiqueprofesseur@gmail.com'

    Le Dynamique Professerur

    February 3, 2012 at 4:25 am

    God bless this author seriously! It was when I got out of Nigeria that I discovered its an insult calling a fat person fat. I remember asking, “so what should we call the person”? And there was silence in the room. Abeg, lets call a spade a spade. If the person is not comfortable about it, let the person do smthn about it.

    – LDP

    • slimpretty2004@yahoo.com'


      September 30, 2015 at 5:04 pm

      I like your friend already!

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