Marriage

He Doesn’t Have A Job, I Will Marry Him Anyway

   

Couple counting money

Brenda: I have good news for you!

Chichi: are you serious?  What’s the news?

Brenda: I am getting married in September

Chichi: Wow! That’s great news, yay! That’s quite soon, just a month away!

Brenda: Yeah we just decided last week, everything happened so fast.

Chichi: It is absolutely so fast. You have only been dating for few months!

Brenda: that’s true, but you know my clock is ticking. I just thought there is no point waiting when i am convinced i have the right person.

Chichi: Well, I see your reasons. But you told me last month you had some concerns about his financial state.

Brenda: Yeah I was concerned that he doesn’t have a job and has no stable source of income

Chichi:  but he has one now?

Brenda: Nope, he lost the last one about a year ago.

Chichi: Hmmmmn. But why don’t you wait for him to get a job and have a stable income before you have the wedding. You have only been dating for six months.

Brenda: he has a lot of potential to achieve great things in life; it’s just a matter of time. I know he will get a good job soon.

Chichi: Brenda, millions of people have potentials. Potentials don’t automatically translate to success, if so everyone will be successful.

Brenda: So what are you saying now, that I should not marry him because he is not rich? You know how long I have been waiting for a man to call my husband.

Chichi: wow! I am sorry if it sounds like that, that’s not my intention. It is nothing personal against him; I am just concerned about you. I know you don’t earn a lot of money and I don’t want you to start a marriage with so much financial stress. He doesn’t have to be rich; he just needs to have a stable source of income like you. You will enjoy your marriage better.

Brenda: I am sure we can handle it.

Chichi: so you will be financially responsible for the wedding and even for life after the marriage? Are you sure you can handle that?

Brenda: it’s easy for you to say these things because you are now financially stable. But we all know your husband didn’t have anything when you got married.

Chichi: Yes, we had no financial plan when we got married, but our marriage, lives and even children suffered for it. That’s why I am telling you this now; you can spare yourself the heartache. You don’t want to be miserable like I was.

Brenda: your being miserable had nothing to do with money. Money can’t buy happiness.

Chichi: I agree with you. Money can’t buy happiness but poverty can’t buy it either. At least money can buy other things like shelter, paid bills, school fees for your kids. Poverty buys nothing but misery.

Brenda: We love ourselves to bits and as far as I am concerned that’s all that matters, we can conquer anything else.

Chichi: it seems I have upset you, I am sorry if I said the wrong things. Let’s talk about the wedding plans.

Brenda: I have to go now, I will call you later.


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  1. moi.downtheaisle@gmail.com'

    downtheaisle

    January 18, 2012 at 10:59 am

    with God all things are possible, but a stable source of income for the home is VERY important even if it is not something huge.

  2. kalistica2@yahoo.co.uk'

    unidentified..

    January 18, 2012 at 3:06 pm

    this reeks of desperation it’s disgusting.. I have no sympathy.

  3. olajumoke_alao@yahoo.co.uk'

    Jay

    January 18, 2012 at 3:32 pm

    A man who can’t provide for his family is worse than an infidel .. So says d Bible.

  4. abim@noemail.com'

    Abim

    January 18, 2012 at 9:19 pm

    I am, by and large, a realist. Love is great to have but in a marriage, a couple need more than love to get through. Love and marriage are two different things: you can share love without a marriage, and you can have a marriage with no love. The realist in me would say to any couple in this situation to put their finances in order first. Marriage equals shared responsibilities which isn’t always true for love.

    The romantic in me will say “love conquers all”, but the realist in me has dominance over my inner romantic.

  5. ask4ema@gmail.com'

    Ema Leecious

    January 19, 2012 at 6:35 pm

    Eya, I really feel sorry for Brenda..such an Idealist! I hope I am not sounding judgemental, but that’s the truth. She should wait for him to get a job, get stable financially and see his “true colours”. That way, she will know if he is really all he claims. My mom told me this- Poverty humbles everyone…

    I sincerely hoe he doesn’t change when he “makes it” and that her love for him can withstand all circumstances!

  6. tinu.ojikutu@yahoo.com'

    Tennyhola

    March 15, 2012 at 7:57 pm

    pathetic

  7. Ifytery@yahoo.com.au'

    Ifytery

    March 16, 2012 at 11:15 am

    Why would she want to put herself into trauma, worthless endurance and pain. This is the height of negligence. A friend, who had a good job got married to someone who earned 40,000 out of love pity and marriage eagerness, which its under the canopy of “e go better” If we evaluate the money and excuses properly, it would never sustain an early marriage. Ladies should be wise before saying “i do”. Poverty and endurance kills the real essence of marriage.

  8. lovesap2002@yahoo.com'

    opeloyeru adewale

    May 26, 2012 at 8:28 am

    a real woman will work with her man to ensure their goals are achieved. u need to be on a safer side as a woman but u also need to use ur head. make sure he is not drifting to nowhere but ensure he has goals and vision, highly spirited and focused. then give him ur emotional support. dont marry him until he starts gaining his financial strenght but motivate him to reach for his goals. i wonder what those ladies that said no to steve jobs not because they dont like him but because of the physical would be feeling.

  9. rounke60@yahoo.com'

    patricia

    June 5, 2012 at 11:02 am

    Marriage by force has become a social norm in Nigeria for women and bcos men know that women will put up with anytin from a man jst to get married the men no longer bother with anytin just sit on their asses and hv women feed, house and clothe them. Its jst a shame

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