SheSaidThis: Jada Pinkett Smith’s Letter To A Friend Who Is Feeling Strangled In Her Marriage.

With 1,598 comments, 2,003 shares and 19,414 likes at the time of publishing this, Jada Pinkett Smith must have said something that made sense to many people. We’ve heard it before, but she said it in another way, Marriage is not a one-size-fit-all thing. Here is the marriage advice to a friend that she shared on her Facebook page. What do you think?


A letter to a friend:

You say you are feeling strangled in your marriage. I’m going to suggest an idea. Remember…its simply a suggestion.

Too often, marriage is expected to have a cookie cut existence. We are told marriage is not a marriage unless it looks a specific way. It’s these boxes that create titles. It’s these titles that create simple, black and white explanations for people who want to believe that they know who we are and who we are not, according to the criteria of the box. These explanations give people a false sense of control, a false sense of safety, and tend to be more…strangling then anything else.

Do an exercise. Throw all these titles in your marriage away. Perhaps, give your husband the title… life partner. Give your marriage the title of union…maybe. Simply release your marriage, your husband and yourself from the criteria. Maybe this will create an opportunity to find something new, fresh and expansive.

Life doesn’t have to be about remaining the same and fearing what is outside the box. Your life, your marriage is art. Create, tear down and recreate again in order to keep up with your growth and happiness. THAT is MORE important…than the boxes and the criteria that comes with them.

Remember, the most courageous, world changing minds have had to step out of the box to create mind blowing realities.

Don’t fear! Live!


<—— Thanks for reading , please share before you go

Like us on Facebook

Sponsored Links:

About Author


Woman.NG is the Web, for the Nigerian woman, by Nigerian women. We publish Nigerian women's opinions, advice, news, issues and stories. Twitter: @WomanNG FacebookWoman.NG


  1. N Amma Twum-Baah Reply to N

    "Your life, your marriage is art. Create, tear down and recreate again in order to keep up with your growth and happiness. THAT is MORE important…than the boxes and the criteria that comes with them." I was glad to read this particular part because that's what I believe when it comes to my own life and relationships. They're art forms we create. How one artist creates theirs is completely different from how I choose to create mine. Nice letter though.

  2. This is absolutely free, very easy all you need is an internet facility.

    for full details see my blog at

    I have been using this system for some time now; I will be showing you how to make unlimited cash with your liberty reserve account and a perfect money account. I will try to make it as short as possible. But clear, just like every other business your interest and seriousness counts.

    "The reward for hard work is success".


    1. open a liberty reserve account at ( this is free).

    2. Open a perfect money account at (this is free).

    3. Fund your liberty reserve account with a minimum of 11 USD, because of transaction charges, actually you needed a minimum of 10 USD.

    (Note: To fund or sell your liberty reserve, go to to search for an e-currency exchanger close to you.)

    4. Go to , and exchange 10 USD from your liberty reserve account to your perfect money account.

    1 LR——>1.28 PM, so 10 LR—-> 12.80 PM.

    5. Go to or , exchange 12.80 Perfect money to 11.01liberty reserve.

    1 PM —-> 0.86 LR, so 12.80 PM—>11.01 LR. You have gain 1.01 USD.

    6. Repeat the exchange process from LR—->PM—>LR.

    You can always increase your capital, because the more money you exchange the faster u make your cash. I can make up to 257 USD per day. Doing up to 25 exchanges per hour. But there is also no harm in starting small.


Leave a Reply