Yemisi Jebutu: Ladies Love Lies! Do they?


By Yemisi Jebutu

Today I simply feel like rambling!

Sniffing through blogs the other day to get my daily fix, I couldn’t but notice a lot of the rantings I stumbled on. They all seem to centre on the same theme – relationships and all the drama that could possibly come with it. One that really stood out for me was the “six words and cold turkey” write-up. It made me laugh and got me thinking. It is common saying that the signs are always there but ladies just choose to ignore them, hoping against hope, desiring the undesirable, willing their fantasies into reality literally.

I made a brief visit to a bookstore days back and I found a book with a title that caught my eyes immediately: “Men are like waffles, Women are like spaghetti” . Quickly, I browsed through the chapters and my eyes settled on one in which the author tried to explore the world of male & female parallel differences. It is safe to say the issue is a dead horse yet a lot of people never get to understand it – some, for a lifetime! – hence the persistent tensions and the continuous battle of the sexes that would remain as long as the world exists.

Interestingly, an email I got on the 6th of February fixated my thoughts on a subject I find pretty complex. In the said email, the writer emphatically stated that men lie all the time and gave justifiable reasons in his opinion. I would be citing some excerpts from the email:

“If you’re like most women you’ve probably been lied to by a man . . . Actually, I can pretty much guarantee it. The simple fact is, men lie to women all the time . . . About little things . .. About big things . . . About things that don’t seem to matter at all . . . And a lot of women want to know WHY? WHY can’t he just tell me the truth?”

He went on to state 1 of 3 reasons for this supposedly preposterous act towards the womankind based on a survey research done by some nationally known relationship expert in the US.

“There’s actually THREE reasons that men lie to women (and two of them are actually pretty innocent . . . here’s the first one that tends to SHOCK a lot of women.) Michael says that men lie to women because men are SCARED of women. Not physically (not usually, though occasionally you hear about a woman going all “Bobbet” on her man.) Nope, Michael says men are scared of women’s EMOTIONS. Women can both enter and recover from extreme emotional states a LOT faster and easier than guys can.”

Right! So, men lie and ladies love lies.

The mother of them all was this article I read last night, “The other woman speaks…loving the man and his ring”. It blew my mind literally. This girl met a guy who professed so much love for her whilst getting married to someone else. She knew about it yet held on to a relationship built on lies and illusions.  Agreed, people lie all the time irrespective of the gender but what baffles me is when a woman still holds on knowing fully well all she is hearing are lies.

A man would swear by anything that he always lay the cards bare on the table but most ladies still read it otherwise. From my observation, the world’s undisputed sand castle builders are ladies. I mean…. how does a first time outing with a guy ends up in wedding plans less than a week later. Gosh!!!  I feel when a guy speaks, it sounds mostly like gibberish to the female ears and in other not to waste that communication, a lady gives it her own interpretation…lol

I really need to hear your reaction on this one guys….

Does the emotional flippancy of the female specie justify the irrational dispensation of lies to her?

Why would a lady hope against hope that the lies being doled out to her would suddenly become the truth?

PS: “I love listening to lies when I know the truth” – An  amazing view-point in my opinion!

Yemisi Jebutu
Freelance writer, blogger & business management professional.

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