Question By Confused Wife;
I met Lara eight months ago when Michael, my husband’s best friend introduced her as his fiancée. We hit it off right from the first day we met and have been very good friends since then, it’s like we have known each other for years.
Sometime ago, she called me on a Sunday morning and asked me to meet her at her parents’ house. I wondered what was happening, because, she had already moved in with Michael in readiness for their upcoming wedding.
When I got there she held my hands and led me into a room, I could sense she had been crying, her eyes were red. I kept asking her if she had a fight with Michael or caught him with another woman.
When we entered the room, she closed the door behind her and turned to me, She said, “Please, brace yourself up, because what I am about to tell you, will change your life forever”.
The night before, Michael woke her up in the middle of the night and said, he had been keeping a secret for many years and cannot live with it anymore, so he decided to tell her.
He said, he and three of his friends were serial rapists while they were in university, and they did it continuously for three years in and outside the campus and didn’t stop until one of their victims, a girl of about 12years died.
They were arrested after the incidence but then let off the hook without being charged. One of them had serious connections.
I opened my mouth in shock, wondering what kind of monster Michael is, before I could catch my breath, Lara said, “I am sorry to tell you this, but your husband was one of them”.
I dashed home with my heart pounding so fast, I had never been that scared in my life. To my shock when I asked my husband he smiled and brushed it aside casually and said, “it was just youthful exuberance.”
He is not even showing any remorse or soberness, I tried to talk him into seeing a counselor in church, (we are not so religious, but we believe in God) and then he got angry and said I should never talk to him about it again.
My husband has raped countless women and killed one, I am afraid that the repercussion of his devilish acts can bring calamities on me and my children, especially since he is not repentant. I am willing to forgive him and move on if only he gets sober and repentant of his actions.
Right now, I am thinking of staying away from him, I feel like I am married to a beast and a stranger, I don’t even know what evil he is capable of doing again.
He wants me to pretend it never happened. How possible is that?
– Confused Wife ( married for 17 months, with a 9 months old baby)
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