It all started when we were in secondary school, my best friend never got excited about boys the way we did. We thought she was just being mummy’s girl and being obedient to her parents. Then we moved on to University and it was still the same, she had close male friends but never dated anyone. By the time we got to our final year, I was beginning to think she was a lesbian, but then again, she wasn’t in any strange relationship with any woman. She said she just wasn’t looking for a romantic or sexual relationship.
Now she is in her early thirties, and she has never had a relationship, never had sex (not even a kiss) and she seems quite happy about it.
We are all worried, her mother has fasted and prayed for years about it, is she a lesbian and afraid to come out? Is she frigid and afraid to have sex? We have asked ourselves for years.
Well, last month she finally told us what she is; “Asexual” she said.
I have heard the word before, but never knew exactly what it means until she told us, she said it’s a sexual orientation and that is how she was born. She seemed to have really embraced it, she has all sorts of materials she reads about it and even joined an association of asexual.
I am a woman who loves sex, so i can’t even imagine how a woman can say she doesn’t want it at all. It just doesn’t sound normal to me. Should we leave her since she is happy about it or should we continue to seek help for her to change? I have no idea, her parents and siblings are clueless too.
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