I was going through this website when I saw this post about a woman who was so desperate to marry that she didn’t care If the man had money or not. It made me remember what my friend is going through now and I decided to share this.
My friend and I go to the same church and our Pastor’s wife has been our mentor since we joined the church when we were in the University.
At every chance she gets, my Pastor Mrs is always sharing stories of how she got married to her husband when he was penniless, how he never worked for anyone for one day and even told her to resign her job before they got married, she says she is reaping the good fruits of supporting him now that they live in abundance.
She makes it look like marrying a rich or comfortable man is not a virtuous thing to do and many young women in the church believe her. They go with any mediocre guy that proposes to them in the church believing that one day they will share their own grass to grace story like Pastor Mrs.
When my friend met a banker who wanted to marry her, Pastor Mrs disapproved of their relationship, and she said as women of virtue we should start from the scratch with a man we want to marry, that she will be of no value to him in future if he already has everything before they got married. The guy had a car and a furnished apartment.
My friend listened to her; she broke up with her banker boyfriend and called us materialistic for advising her against doing that. She eventually married one of the Pastor’s Personal Assistants, with approval from the Pastor Mrs.
Three years and two children after, she now regrets her action every day. He is content with serving in the church for a meagre and irregular salary and doesn’t believe in the pursuit of wealth. She knows he loves her but she wants more than the love, she wants to live well too, but she can’t say it out too loud because that will not make her a ”virtuous” woman.
– By Anonymous