Question By Worried Girl:
I’ve known my friends, Nneka and Yinka since our undergraduate days and we have all been good friends for about 9 years after school now. Things seem to be working so well so fast for them, they both have great jobs, and are married to rich men, and they both travel outside the country at will. Everything about them is perfect!
I am still struggling with a low paying job, and no boyfriend. Nneka’s salary is nine times more than mine, and her husband just bought her a posh house in Lekki last year. Yinka just bought her second car and is having her second baby very soon.
My own relationships with men have been failures upon failures, at my age I have fibroids and I am not married. Not even a boyfriend.
I used to be so happy for them, always praying for them as I pray for myself and always at hand to celebrate their successes, I have even helped them to babysit their children several times, but I recently discovered that I am getting overly jealous of them and their achievements.
I try to put on a brave face, but it’s so hard because they are always showing off and bragging about their successes. Whenever we go places together I’m always treated like second best and it’s like I don’t even exist anymore, they are so insensitive to my pains.
The worst part is not being able to be happy for them anymore and deep down me wishing them bad things, so that they will know how it feels to be in my position.
I feel horrible and don’t want to feel this way anymore but it overcomes me and I can’t help it. How can I stop feeling this strong jealousy towards them?
– Worried woman
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