Tomilayo Afolabi is our guest on the 15 QUESTIONS Series today! Send us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org if you like to be a guest!
Tell us about yourself
My name is Tomilayo Afolabi, an M.Sc student in Robert Gordon University. I am gentle as well as stubborn; more of an introvert than an extrovert. For fun, I like hanging out with friends, being in the company of kids, watching movies and reading novels. I am highly impressionable and a good listener. I am skilled in spotting the strength in people I work with. I am also very pedantic and it slows me down at times. Lastly, I am a very emotional being with a passion for God.
If you were the President for one day and you have the power to fix one thing in Nigeria, what will it be and WHY?
If given the chance to be the president for a day, I will set up a youth empowerment commission and allocate funds to each state. This will be to support entrepreneurs with proven business ideas and reduce the alarming rate of unemployment. I will also dig into the issue of electricity supply, transmission and distribution in order to expose those that have paralyzed the system.
What is the most annoying thing you have heard people say about women in Nigeria?
The most annoying thing I have heard people say about women (also applies to Nigerian women) is that the world will be a better place without women. They fail to see the fact that women are a blessing to the world.
If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old, which would you choose?
I will choose the mind of a 30 year old because I believe the mind is a highly powerful tool that can make situations work and turns situation around, regardless of the bodily weakness.
Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
We are both excellent listeners, music lovers and like to watch movies.
If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one special quality or ability, what would it be?
I will like to miraculously have an excellent public speaking ability.
If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know? Why or why not?
I will like to exactly who I am and what my purpose is on the earth (also the lives I should reach out to, the people I don’t need in my life and a clear definition of what my relationship should be with each person around me). This is because I have experienced a lot of confusion in my life and have always moved from one thing to the other in search of what is for me.
If you knew when you will die, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
I will devote more time to God and fulfilling my purpose. This is because I realised that I have spent a substantial part of my time on earth sleeping or watching movies or living in fantasy or worrying and complaining. The little time I have spent productively have really paid off and so I believe I am here for a bigger purpose; if only I can focus on achieving it.
If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
Nothing I can think of for now. Maybe not telling my sister that I am in a relationship due to the fear of disapproval.
Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
My wallet because I have a lot of good memory etched in it.
If you don’t have to worry about making money, what would you do all day?
I would sing and dance all day. I love doing that.
If you could go back in time, what year would you travel to? What happened that year?
Year 2000. It was the year I started becoming highly introverted and keeping thoughts to myself. A friend walked up to me and said my attitude was changing and I was not as good as I used to be. I then became a people pleaser as a result and got used to not speaking up. It has negatively affected my relationships and myself substantially.
How do you think your friends would describe you?
Gentle, jovial, always smiling and playful.
Would you like to be famous? In what way?
I would like to be famous as a God lover and worshiper. I don’t like the kind that will invade my personal life because I love being myself.
Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
I have dreamt of starting an empowerment forum for Nigerian kids/teenagers. I have not done anything about it because I am busy with my engineering career.
Would you be willing to have horrible nightmares for a year if you would be rewarded with extraordinary wealth for a life time? Why or Why not?
I will not be willing to have horrible nightmares for any reason because things linger a lot on my mind and disrupts my mood, mode of thought and productivity. I have experienced depression before and it was not related with a lack of wealth. This has made me realize how key a joyful heart is in my life, as it gives me satisfaction. So anything that will steal that from me, I will avoid, even if it will supposedly bring wealth! BTW, I live a life of abundance already because I have Christ. This gives me satisfaction.