REAL WOMEN, REAL ISSUES: How Do I Tell My Infertile Friend That I Am Pregnant With Twins?



My friend is infertile, after three years of trying all sorts of treatment she still isn’t pregnant and that kills her everyday. I have been with her through this journey until I got married six months ago and moved to another state.

I got pregnant in the first month of my marriage, I am about six months gone now and I am expecting twins, as much as I will like to share the good news with her, I am afraid it will remind her of her own struggles, I have seen how news of other people’s pregnancy leaves her shattered.

We will be seeing at an event next weekend, and I just don’t know what to do. Is it better to just let her see me pregnant or should I call and tell her before we see, or just cancel going to the event and then tell her when I give birth? – Anonymous




    Angela Madumere

    February 26, 2015 at 8:18 am

    Just allow her to see you pregnant. You now tell her dat you didn’t know how (o break d news 2 her. just encourage her,but don’t tell her dat u r expecting twins.



    September 14, 2015 at 7:55 am

    As someone that watched friends and family get pregnant and give birth severally, while still trusting for my own child, you should tell her before she sees you.

    Longing for your own child does not mean you don’t want others to have children either, neither does it mean you can’t be happy when others have children. Yes, it’s tough for you, but not telling her would hurt her more, unless you’re not really close.

    My sister’s and friends trusted me enough to share their good news with me, and yes, some days I felt “when would it be me”, but I loved them the more for the trust they put in me by telling me.

    My two cents



    December 3, 2015 at 2:49 pm

    HY dear,

    I will advice you tell on phone before seeing her but dont tell her what you are expecting because I think if you dont tell and she finds out herself, she may not show it but she is mad and the trust is half gone.



    December 23, 2015 at 1:38 pm

    Hi, I need you to help her work on her mindset and yours too because you can’t give what you don’t have, you can only give what you have.
    Make her understand that:
    1) “With God, all things are possible” Matthew 19:26.
    2) She should thank God for others and develop an attitude of thanksgiving. Always take counts and believe that if she was number 20 out of 30 expectant women on the fruit of the womb queue, now that you have received from GOD, she should rejoice & praise Him because the queue is reducing and she is now number 19 and will soon be number one to make the number 30th woman 10th.

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