I am a 32 year old working mum and I have a family of 4, two girls and two boys.
I was not a daddy’s girl growing up, but as I grew to an adult, my dad and I have an awesome relationship.
I was told when I was about 14 years old by a cousin, that she heard my dad was not my biological dad. I asked my mother about it and she became furious and slapped me for even asking. Needless to say I never asked or thought about it again.
These past years, I have paid attention to family traits. I do not look like him or his family and I don’t look like my mum too. I asked my dad if he would mind doing a paternity test just to have peace of mind for us both, he shrugged it off every time I brought it up for a long time, but eventually agreed after many visits and pleas from me. The test result showed he is not my biological dad. We were both shocked. I could not look at him face to face, I was sickened not to be his biological daughter. He was lied to by my mum that I was his biological daughter!
Things haven’t been the same between my parents since then. My mother is angry with me that we did the test. She said I should have left things the way they were. I asked her who was the biological father and she said she would not tell me because I could ruin someone else’s life.
It has been two months since then and with the help from my aunties, I may have found my biological father.
We are set to do a DNA test next week and my prospective biological father is excited. He says I look like his family.
I am excited, sad, embarrassed and confused. My dad, my brother and even my husband think I shouldn’t take things further.
I keep thinking, if he is confirmed as my biological father, and he wants a relationship with me? I don’t know that I want that yet. My dad is an amazing man. But I feel it is not fair I don’t give him a chance to know my kids (still confused how to explain to them) and I.
Written by Anonymous B