British Mother of four, Tracy was shocked to discover that her Nigerian husband of 10yrs left her and his two kids to secretly marry another woman on Boxing Day last year. Her husband had told her he was going to visit his family in Nigeria for Christmas but as she later discovered through a friend, he had married another woman during his trip.
43 year old Tracy Akingbogun from Gravesend, Kent, narrates her story to The Sun UK
On her shock
“While I was at home with the kids missing him at Christmas, his present to himself was a new bride.
“I still can’t believe he did that to us after more than ten years together.
“I did some research and saw that the ceremony was a religious one and not a legal one. So he hadn’t committed bigamy.
“His dad had five wives during his lifetime, so I suppose David thought he could do that too.
“But not when he was living in the UK and not when he was married to me.”
“This Christmas it will be just me and the children again, just like it was last year. But this time I’ll be over the moon that David isn’t with us.”
On how they met and their wedding
“I was watching a group of lads on the pull, but one of them wasn’t. He was just leaning against the bar enjoying himself. He saw me watching him and came over to chat.
“His name was David and he was really kind and gentle. He’d only arrived from Nigeria three months before.”
It was a small ceremony with a few family and friends. David read out a poem and told me he really believed in me and our future together.
“From then on he called me ‘Wifey,’ his pet name for me.”
On her suspicions when she found messages between David and a Nigerian woman.
“One read: ‘When you were last here I wish I’d kissed you.’ I shouted at him, and wanted him to explain himself.
“He said she was someone he used to date before he came to the UK. He said it was nothing, they were just friends.
“I told David it was her or me. He said it was me, I was his wifey and that was that.
“Over the next few months he tried hard to show he meant it and we got back to normal.”
On his lies
“I was furious. I told him he should be here for his sons — for our family. He kept insisting he had important family business.”
“I was so angry with him, but I wasn’t going to let the children know that.
“It was Christmas so I was going to make it a good one.”
“David finally called at 9pm. I gave him an earful but let him speak to the children. I was so angry with him.
“On Boxing Day I didn’t hear from him, but I spoke to him and his family the next day and they were all friendly and normal.”
On discovering the infidelity through a message on Facebook from the partner of one of David’s friends in Nigeria, a woman Tracy had met when she visited.
“The message read that he’d got married to another woman on Boxing Day — everyone knew apart from me. She didn’t think that was right.
“The world I loved had been whipped from beneath my feet. Tears streamed down my face. I’d known something was up.
“I confronted David but he denied it. He seemed so cool and calm. So I messaged her and said there must be a mistake.” “She ended up sending me photos of the wedding ceremony via WhatsApp and confirmed it to me. There was no denying that. I was so angry I couldn’t speak. He couldn’t get married — he was my husband! I confronted him and he tried to deny it again but this time I told him I’d seen the photos and read the messages. I told him to pack his bags and get out. I don’t take calls from his family, as they were in on this and went to his wedding last Boxing Day while lying to me. He abandoned his children and me to get married to another woman. He’s made his choice and now he’s stuck with it.”