I am a step-mother to a pretty thirteen year old but if I am given a second chance, I will never choose to marry a man with a child again.
My husband’s first marriage ended when their daughter was about eight, so she was a bit aware of the anger and bitterness her mother suffered because of the divorce. Many things went wrong with the marriage, they both had their faults and though my husband could have stayed and make it work he opted out for reasons he thought was best for them.
I married him one year ago and it has been hell living with his daughter. I try so hard to be good to her but always scared of disciplining or correcting her because she always exaggerates it and make it look like I am maltreating her because I am not her mother.
There have been so many conflicts in our home because of that, my husband thinks I don’t care to correct her because she is not my child, but when I do he thinks I am maltreating her because she is not my child. Her mother and her family know every single thing happening in our home and I am really not comfortable with that at all.
She has told me to my face that she hates me for taking her mother’s place and she will do anything to bring her parents back together.
Living with us gives her a whole lot of opportunities that she will never have if she is living with her mother, and I think she deserves to have good opportunities in life. But right now I want a happy marriage too and I am seriously thinking about insisting that she leaves our house to live with her mother.
I feel selfish and guilty for thinking that way, but I am about to have my own child now and I am afraid that things will get worse if she stays.
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