Dear Woman.NG Readers,
When I met my husband at 28, I was okay financially. I had a decent job with a reasonable salary. He was 35 at the time.
From the first day I met him I knew he was from a well to do family but that played zero factor in my decision to marry him. He had a seemingly thriving business and we looked okay together financially on our own.
My eyes opened when I got married to him, it turned out his lifestyle is being funded by his parents and siblings. His so-called business made no profit and folded up.
5 years on and two children into our marriage, we are completely living off his parents and siblings, sometimes even cousins.
The house, the car, the children’s fees, the holidays, everything!
He is the last child and has been pampered rotten since he was a child.
He can do absolutely nothing without financial aid from his family, yet he refuses to cut his coat according to his cloth.
Some of my friends say they don’t know why I worry that as long as there is money, it doesn’t matter where it comes from.
My problem is that at this age if he can’t stand on his own financially, when will he be able to do that? I don’t know his long term strategy.
I feel like a beggar having to pander to his parents and siblings even when they disrespect me, I am at their beck and call like their servant because we live off them.
I lost my job and been trying to get another one for almost two years now.
We always fight over this issue, I have been branded a nagging wife.
Am I just being difficult? Should I accept his way of life and let it go? Or should I stand my ground and insist that he becomes a financially responsible, independent man?