Imagine you have been very skeptical about dating sites, even when your single friends tell you they are hoping to get a date, you usually consider them as desperate or superficial but now it’s your turn to spend time searching for a date online. No doubt some ladies have found love and are still married years later, unfortunately a good number have had awful experiences looking for love online.
You get married with so much high hopes and expectations that you’ve met the love of your life. You look forward to spending quality time together. You abandoned all other guys for this special one. Emotional disconnection doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a step daily away from each other and you wake up one day and you’re miles apart.
After so many years of seeing you and your spouse drift apart, you didn’t even consider seeing other guys. You’re too ashamed to be caught. How does one survive a loveless marriage? Everyone thinks all is well in your relationship but they are clueless that you are no longer soul mates but now roommates.
How did you get here? You just stopped doing all you used to do. While you are busy with the kids and your business, he is busy with work. You both make no deliberate effort to connect regularly. You no longer share any hobbies or look forward to anything in particular. Your relationship has gone sour and boring till it’s at a standstill.
You’re enjoying your job, having fun growing with your kids and you have all you need but something’s still missing. You are supposed to be married and enjoying your relationship but you’re enduring the awful situation you’re stuck with someone who’s disconnected and no longer interested in the marriage
Why would a married woman hunt for a date online if her spouse is meeting her needs? The smart gadgets around us have succeeded in leading us on with our lusts and temptation. You get married hanging all your hopes and dreams on an imperfect guy only to have those dreams shattered and your heart broken.
No one can truly meet your heart’s desires except God. Even if you go online and meet someone, they’ll take what they want and move on. Sadly many ladies are still asking the tough question ‘why did they get married in the first place’? Life’s purpose is beyond marriage, one day we’ll have to give account of how well we did and a failure in our marriages won’t be an excuse to fulfilling that main purpose you came to planet Earth.
The hard truth is that many ladies are going through similar issues or even worse in their marriages. Go ahead and grief over the loss of your intimacy in your relationship with your spouse but pick up the pieces of what’s left and stay strong for yourself and your kids. You can’t change anyone and while you wait for God to step in and act, enjoy your life and stop sulking.