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I Got Married As a Virgin And Four Months Later To Have Sex Is Still An Issue

By Woman.NG

Posted on July 1, 2016

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I have been married to my husband for 4 months now and we have never had sex.

Why?

Hmmmm. I have a huge phobia for sex. I have always maintained a no-one rule in my previous relationships because I knew it wasn’t right, and I couldn’t handle any of the consequences like STDs and pregnancy.

I got married as a virgin and now to have sex is an issue. My husband has been supportive and we talk a lot but I don’t want to push my luck.

What do I do?

I Am Angry at myself. Once he tries to penetrate, I groan and tell him to get off. It frustrates him but he tries to be patient with me. Please, what do I do? I know I am depriving him of his right and God isn’t HAPPY with me.

Help!

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