‘Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God do you learn’ – William Nicholson, Shadowlands
I couldn’t agree more with this renowned quote as the cost of hindsight was quite steep. Even though it’s quite natural to seek the company of others but sometimes, one too many isn’t always in your best interest.
Here are 5 things I learned by experience.
Do not envy
Do not envy and avoid trying to impress anyone. There might be more actresses /actors than genuine personalities. No one’s life is that perfect so why try to learn their lines.
Don’t practice all what they preach
What’s good for the goose isn’t necessarily good for the gander. As adults and especially in marriage, avoid being gullible and eager to take on new advice. It might cost you everything including the trust of your spouse.
Avoid airing your dirty laundry in public
Gossip is sweetest when it’s entertaining but try to disassociate from such otherwise your spouse, finances or home might be the upcoming rumour. It’s healthy to share your deepest concerns with others but not everyone is actually interested in empathizing with you.
Don’t give too much away
Learn to keep certain aspects of your past to yourself especially when you’re meeting people for the first time. Only God is able to forget and never bring to mind.
Learn to forgive
This one was particularly hard for me and I still struggle with it. But realised I’m better off free from its shackles. Everyone makes mistakes and some are just horrendous but we must try to forgive so that we may receive forgiveness from our Almighty Father, God.
Writer: Ngozika is an ardent writer with a knack for composing heartfelt articles. A master’s degree holder in Housing Management and Policy from the University of Greenwich. But above all, a joyful wife and miraculously, sane mother of two brilliant boys.