Love is beautiful but it also comes with its own challenges.
For instance, two people who are in love and hope to get married might be torn apart by a number of things, one of which is not getting approval from a spouse’s family. 10 Naija women share their thoughts on if they can continue with a man whose family is not in support of their union.
They don’t have to like me. It is even better they don’t. sebi they will sha leave us to marry? No problem, I’ll know how to handle them when the time comes.
I can never go ahead with such marriage. Who will I run to when my husband starts misbehaving? Although, it can be painful, I’ll rather leave the relationship than divorce.
I will marry him if I have God’s backing. There are situations where the family of the man supports the union but changes suddenly after the marriage, what happens then? So, if God says Yes, who are they to say No?
No, No, No, No! I will not put my head into what will break it. Infact, it is something that every single lady should watch out for before she says yes to the man.
No matter how much your man loves you, he can never abandon his family because of you; he will always go back to them because that is his roots. So if they say no to our union, then it’s a no for me too because they will not allow me enjoy my marriage.
Yoruba says you marry both the man and his family. If you marry a man despite his family not showing support, you will live to regret it especially when the man is not man enough to fight for you when challenges come. For me, I won’t try such because he’s not the only man.
Even love will jump out of the window when it faces challenges. Infact, the prayer should be that the negativity of the family doesn’t affect the man; else, the woman has entered everlasting wahala. As for me, I cannot try it. I will jejely leave his life.
There’s nothing as sweet as getting the support of your man’s family especially your mother-in-law. As for me, I don’t pray that my mother-in-law dies before I marry his son. I usually pray that we become so close that people think I’m her daughter. However, in a situation where it is a no, I will walk away ni o.
Where will love be when the challenges attached to stubbornness starts coming? Sebi dem say dem no gree make we marry but na me say love dey shack mi. ok. What I am trying to say is I can never try it. Ask my mum and she will tell you the story of her life.
A friend of mine told me that as nice as her mother is to her dad’s family, they just do not like her. Getting married to a man who says he loves you is a risk let alone not getting support from his family. Please, what will I tell my children when they grow up to see the hostility towards me? Won’t they ask me if their father was the only man standing?