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Dear Woman.NG Readers,
I know many people will not understand this, in fact I know I will be judged for this, but I am hoping that someone out there who has gone through this will identify with me.
It is ten years into our marriage and I have been seriously contemplating divorce. No he isn’t cheating (he has in the past) and no he does not abuse me in anyway. But the main thing that should bind a couple together for life is no longer there.
I am no longer in love with him and I think the feeling is mutual.
I got married when I was 22 and he was 25. We were so young and in love and we believed all we needed was each other.
As we grew older, we started coming into our own. We didn’t grow together. Our interests, ambitions, values and so many things have become so different.
Initially, we were having a lot of conflicts, but after a while we both learnt to avoid each other. So now even though we rarely fight, we rarely talk or spend time together as well.
We have different rooms, different routines and hardly know what is going on with the other person. I can’t even remember the last time we had sex.
With the children we both play our parts.
Most people I have talked with think it is not enough reason to get a divorce, but why should we stay unhappy in a loveless and sexless marriage?
– By Dissatisfied Woman