6 Quotes From Toke Makinwa’s New Book That Will Leave Your Mouth Wide Open



Not until November 4th, Toke Makinwa’s birthday, did we know that she was working on a project that had to do with her life.

The on-air-personality shared a video teaser of her now-completed project, ‘On Becoming,’ which talks about her childhood to her adulthood, her marriage, life after her marriage crashed, the shame she suffered, what people said about her and how she rose from it all to become who she is today.

The book which was launched on Sunday, November 27th, had 14 chapters and it addressed salient issues about her, as the media personality cum author left no stone unturned.

Below are excerpts from her book:


The Wedding

“It was my wedding day. I was happy, yet I was waiting for something to happen. Maje had disappointed me three times before. We would pick a date to go to the wedding registry and he would call it off. It wasn’t until we shared our first dance that I finally believed that it had happened. .



“At some point while we were dating, Maje had asked if he could tape us having sex. This was a new one for me but I would do anything to keep my man, or so I thought, and so I obliged. But I was nervous afterwards because I didn’t want the tape to get into the wrong hands.

I dragged the file back to his desktop, and I could tell from the stilled image in the video that the person in it was not me. I clicked play and watched horrified as Maje had sex with Anita. Watching that video, all of the inadequacies I thought I had dealt with over the years came rushing back.



I had been with Maje from when I was an immature teenager, through my twenties, and for most of those years, Anita had been the standard I had to live up to. I had lightened my skin at some point – Anita was half Lebanese and half Ibibio, and Maje made me feel like he preferred her lighter skin.”


Other child

“There was a 70-day fasting and prayer programme at my church. I joined in: I was praying for Maje and I. On the final day, I asked God to reveal why Maje and I couldn’t find peace with each other. I opened my email address and typed Maje’s email address in. I went through email after email until I found pictures of a boy that looked exactly like Maje….”


The Other Woman

“Who was that girl?” I asked “That’s that girl” “Which girl?” “The girl I told you about. Her friends are always calling me to say she really likes me and has a crush on me. Her name is Anita.” “So that’s the Anita girl they say you are dating.” “I’m not dating her. How can I date someone that is always saying ‘can I come and see you? I’ll bring my friend that you think is cute’?” “I accepted Maje’s explanation and concluded that Anita was not important . So I’ll be with Maje and she’d call and I’d tell him, “The girl that has a crush on you is calling.” And it would be nothing.”


Sexually transmitted disease

 “He had given me an STI in the past. He’d returned from a trip once and we had sex, and a few days later, I was itching. ‘I went to the doctors and they prescribed medication, but when I asked Maje about the infection he denied knowing anything about it. I went through his PHONE and saw a conversation with Anita where she complained that she had been itching.


No cum

I was even toying with the idea of becoming a mother. I would tell Maje at night to go for it. I didn’t want the happy days to end and I thought maybe, just maybe, a baby would bring us so much closer. But I knew Maje wasn’t ready for it. He wanted to open his facility, and I didn’t want the added stress of bills to come between us. I took care of myself well enough not to be a burden on him. I didn’t want him to shrink under the load of a new baby when his career was all he was excited about, and so when we did have sex, he would not cum inside me.


Mother’s prayer

In 2010, maje’s mother took ill. By this time, I had been introduced to his family, and I spent christmas that year with them. I remember his mum praying for me, saying that God would give me my own husband, and I found this odd as I was dating her son.

These revelations from the media personality cum author has generated a lot of discussions online. While some are hailing her for her bravery to step forward and talk about the betrayal she suffered, others think she is trying to gain public sympathy.Wil

Toke makinwa seem not to be fazed by the latter as she still wears her smile, with head raised high while enjoying her new status as a best-selling author.

In another interview with Claire Sulmers of Fashion Bomb Daily interviews, Toke makinwa fully opens up about EVERYTHING.

She shares her fears, her worries and growth; and her new man! She talks about how God has been faithful. Watch below.

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  1. Adedeji Elizabeth Aderonke

    Adedeji Elizabeth Aderonke

    November 30, 2016 at 7:02 am

    That maje is a human goat

    • Mfon Umoh

      Mfon Umoh

      November 30, 2016 at 10:47 am

      That fact was established a long time ago, in fact this human goat has a son and has moved on with his goatish life. Now, why can’t aunty Toke do same, eh?

    • Adedeji Elizabeth Aderonke

      Adedeji Elizabeth Aderonke

      November 30, 2016 at 5:06 pm


  2. Teymeahtaryor Orlanreywahju

    Teymeahtaryor Orlanreywahju

    November 30, 2016 at 7:13 am


  3. Kate Kenny

    Kate Kenny

    November 30, 2016 at 7:29 am

    You are a woman

  4. Eucharia Nkechi Ihedioha

    Eucharia Nkechi Ihedioha

    November 30, 2016 at 7:46 am

    And you still remain with him hoping things will change hmmm which kain mumu you be eh

  5. Olaide Olukunle-Ayodele

    Olaide Olukunle-Ayodele

    November 30, 2016 at 7:49 am

    Toke ppl face a lot on life why this story

  6. Àgbidoro Oghenetèga

    Àgbidoro Oghenetèga

    November 30, 2016 at 8:01 am

    The book doesn’t seem complete so al those plenty years how many D&C. We need all d details d relationship details d marriage details is nt enuf

  7. Abbie Zainab Akanbi

    Abbie Zainab Akanbi

    November 30, 2016 at 8:14 am


  8. Nathaniel Comfort Uyai

    Nathaniel Comfort Uyai

    November 30, 2016 at 8:35 am

    Then u where blind by love. U went ahead and marry his son

  9. Stella Makieze Oboro

    Stella Makieze Oboro

    November 30, 2016 at 8:51 am

    Not be a wet blanket in all this, but who is this lady oh? I mean is she an Actress, or a Dj, radio presenter or what? I keep seeing posts about her but I have no idea who she is. That being said, Sister your hubby betrayed you, you have cried, move on, no need to write a book, before you know it, more stories will come out from the blue that won’t favour you, a much better husband will come.

    • Àgbidoro Oghenetèga

      Àgbidoro Oghenetèga

      December 1, 2016 at 3:08 am

      Before? This is her side of d story, her own go come out,lets sitdown look

  10. Tina Okorotie

    Tina Okorotie

    November 30, 2016 at 8:56 am

    My sis, na ur mumu pain me. With all d signs u still wan marry abi? Most women are so foolishly desperate, some even go ahead to print d wedding card and other arrangements with their money hoping that d cow will appear in his coat for d wedding. After that u see d Lucifer in him, u start to write book. Just thank God u didn’t even have a child with him, u have a clean slate to start ur life anew.

    • Mfon Umoh

      Mfon Umoh

      November 30, 2016 at 10:45 am

      It’s obvious she doesn’t need that fresh start. I’m surprised that someone of Toke’s status could be this childish and bitter.

    • Oyekan Kehinde Margaret

      Oyekan Kehinde Margaret

      November 30, 2016 at 2:16 pm

      My sentiments too.
      She should just have kept quiet and continue her life the way she has been doing.

    • Àgbidoro Oghenetèga

      Àgbidoro Oghenetèga

      December 1, 2016 at 3:07 am

      Tina u talk my mind o,so Tey she born d divorce stamp no go only be dis book wey she write

  11. Winifred Chidinma Nwadinigwe

    Winifred Chidinma Nwadinigwe

    November 30, 2016 at 11:36 am

  12. Marianne Ahamefule

    Marianne Ahamefule

    November 30, 2016 at 12:21 pm

    Na wa o

  13. Hilda Obidei

    Hilda Obidei

    November 30, 2016 at 2:17 pm

    But she was the one who forced the man to marry her. Remember when she went on air before marriage

  14. Paul Williams

    Paul Williams

    November 30, 2016 at 3:53 pm

    Yet you went ahead and forced him. Abeg make we hear word

  15. Fadare Omotola

    Fadare Omotola

    November 30, 2016 at 5:32 pm

    If Toke wrote a book….. Then I begin to wonder what kind of book Annie Idibia will write. Annies’ book will definitely be in series. Forget the past and move on. Don’t be static

  16. Isabella Joseph

    Isabella Joseph

    November 30, 2016 at 9:04 pm

    When She married Maje, She didn’t invite anyone, not even a Celebrity, She had a secret wedding, now, alarm done blow, We are invited to listen???? Am impressed with the way U turned Ur sorrow into achieving Ur dreams… Eg. Writing Ur book, not commiting suicide. Kudos on that!

  17. Taiwo Salami

    Taiwo Salami

    November 30, 2016 at 9:45 pm

    such is life; you’re a strong woman.

  18. Orihe Chinwendu Augustina

    Orihe Chinwendu Augustina

    December 1, 2016 at 9:09 am

    Toke Abeg let us rest wit all dis rubbish talk

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