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Real Women, Real Issues: How Do We Collect The Money Our Late Colleague Was Owing Us From Her Husband?


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Dear Woman.NG readers,

We lost a very dear colleague some months ago, she was a very kind and hardworking woman and will be missed. We are still mourning her and can never get over her death.

We do a monthly contribution thing in the office, it is called Ajo in Yoruba, we all contribute equal amount of money every month and one person takes it every month. We have been doing this for some years now but early this year we had some disagreement and we stopped it.

In July, five of us decided to do it on our own without the other staff, we came together and agreed to start again for the remaining of the year. Five of us will be contributing N150,000 every month so we will each have contributed and also gotten N750,000 by the end of the rounds in December.

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Our late colleague said she wanted to take the first because their rent will soon be due, so in August she collected. Unfortunately,  she died few weeks after, before she could even drop her own contribution for the next month.

The problem now is, how do we or should we even collect our money from her husband?

We gave it some time and went to see him in October to explain things to him, we even showed him evidence of the transfers, but he said he had no idea his wife was doing anything like that and so he cannot verify if she owes us money or not.

Some people said we should forget it and see it as a gift to her but the sad thing is that it is the husband that will spend that money and he was very mean and horrible to her when she was alive, he doesn’t deserve it at all. They didn’t have children.

Should we just forget it like that?





  1. Erus Onome

    Erus Onome

    November 1, 2016 at 9:18 am

    Yes , leave it…. Whether he deserves it or nt…. If knows about it n lied, God has a way of milking such money out of pple like that…. Respect ur colleague ‘S soul n move on…. Big money it is, no doubt, bt u just have to move on… God wil reward u greatly.



    January 4, 2017 at 5:21 am

    I would say let it go but then the husband lied about it …..its not right to let that go. Its not right to let him get away with that.
    Follow up with a lawyer. Even if they don’t get the money back in the end. Make the husband sweat for it. He doesn’t deserve it in any way.
    You can get the money back and even sow it as a seed in her memory to her children but not the husband.
    He shouldn’t get away with that.

    He lied!

  3. Tolulope Adesanya

    Tolulope Adesanya

    February 23, 2017 at 10:56 pm

    You forgo it. It happened to a boss of mine who borrowed some money from the staff account on Friday, thinking he wld be able to return it on Monday but died the Friday evening. Long story short, we had to forgo the money even gave his wife more for burial preparation. He was so simple and nice. May his soul rest in peace, Amen.

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