A 30-year-old, Talatu John, did what many women will find hard to do – she married the man who knowingly infected her with HIV.
In a chat with Punch, Talatu said that she had had a scary dream five months to her wedding, where she saw herself crying because she was HIV positive.
Unfortunately, the dream came true as she had gone for a HIV test and when she went to collect the result of the test on the day she had the dream, it showed she was HIV positive.
“What pains me most is that my boyfriend had the virus but never told me. We were having unsafe sex regularly.
“I don’t know why he never told me despite the fact that he truly loves me. I saw it in my dream, but it has become a regrettable reality.”
Talatu, who met Emmanuel in 2014 when she was searching for a job at a government agency in Abuja, narrated how she found out the truth.
“I love him. I still do. The love was so strong that I gave him all my heart. We had unprotected sex at different times. I was so much in love that I never cared whether we used a condom or not. I was not even scared of being pregnant. He too never bothered to use a condom.
“Then, I didn’t know he was HIV positive and he never told me. Later, my sister, a nurse, told me she learnt that he (Emmanuel) is HIV positive and that I should search his room. She gave me the name of the drug he was using. But I never found any. In order to be sure I was not already infected, I went for HIV/AIDS test and it showed that I was negative. That calmed my nerves.
“But early this year, I found out I was getting regularly sick. I used to feel hot and tired easily. After repeated medications for malaria, I didn’t get better. Then I started depreciating in size. I was advised to go for HIV test.
“The lady at the laboratory handed the result to me and told me to see the doctor. She raised my curiosity when she told me she couldn’t tell me the result. The doctor then dropped the bombshell. I was devastated. So, in anger, I went to confront my boyfriend with the news but he denied.
“I started crying and he consoled me; we had already made arrangements for our wedding. It was a day before we went for counselling at the church that he told me the truth. Sometimes, we quarrel over this and I used to call him the ‘devil.’ But he kept on consoling me.”
Although, Talatu said she has forgiven Emmanuel for hiding his health status from her, however, sometimes, she feels she never met him.