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The Frustrations Of Older Nigerian Women Who Are Sex-Starved By Their Husbands



There is a popular opinion that women lose interest in sex as they grow older, but it is not true. Many women want to  maintain active sex lives well into their fifties and sixties.

A Nigerian woman in her sixties writes comedian, Alibaba, over the frustrations of women who are sex-starved by their husbands who run after younger girls while they abandon their wives at home for years.

She said:

Let me talk my own and let every person hear am. Many women in my age grade nowadays are suffering from sexual neglect. Husbands have stopped playing their sexual roles in the bedrooms. Many women are dying in silence, I know a former governor’s wife. The only thing she got for 10months was peck on her cheek on her 60th.

After that birthday she was never touched by her husband. To make it worse, they even have their separate bedrooms.

Ali, we dey suffer. Let me tell you sometimes, the only time we get to dance with our husbands is during weddings, funerals, old boys, and Yoruba tennis club parties. That is if you are invited.

The last time my husband touched any part of me is five years ago, and it was because I begged him. And if it was not that we were in AMERICA. Who born me. Then it was because we thought Yaradua’s death will cause wahala. so we ran to US.

Aburo, at least I senior you. it’s not easy for us women over 50years o. Especially the ones like us who are still under a man’s roof. The ones who get a bit of it are the ones who are separated or who are divorced or widowed.

Where do I want to start from, to open my legs at 60 something for another man when I am still under my husband’s house.

That is why you see that containers of sex toys come into Nigeria every month, and in weeks they are sold out. I swear to God, plus pastor’s wives o generals, governor’s MDs of companies, chairman sef. all of us dey buy to help ourselves.

This is what you should be writing about not all these girls who marry people that are beating them and because of the money they will sit down there and say they are abused. Them use juju gum their yansh there. Koshi danu.

See this matter of sex starvation I am talking about is even getting worst. Young ladies who are below 30 are also complaining. Young men will now keep them at home as baby making machine and be following small girls up and down.

Me I don’t have pity on these girls between 20 and 40 who get married and their marriage does not last. How will it last. Before some of them got married, Ali my brother, if you see what they used people’s husbands eyes to see.

We are just bearing the husband’s name for nothing. They are the ones that are enjoying him. They stay in 1004, lekki, whats that place behind shoprite and even dolphin, parkview ikoyi. But to rent common shop for us to do business, our husband will ask if someone is not been catered for.

Many men after 40 years cannot make a wife orgasm again. They are now lazy. once they enter its premature ejaculation. They will now be claiming tiredness. Awon oloriburuku. I can beat my chest to say the men that can make a woman orgasm 2 times are not up to 100 thousand in Nigeria.

And even that sef they are all below the age of 30. all the rest when they come, that’s all. The woman will go and find her own. You may think this is funny but this is the real problem nobody is talking about.

This is why you see young men are having sugar mummies up and down. the men of 30 and above have sexual problem. They like to follow young girls who deceive them and tell them they are lions in bed. Lies! I have nieces who tell me how they pretend and the men too would fall for it and give them everything they want.

Some will now marry them after they have one child for him. How is a 65 to 75 year old man going to satisfy a 22years old girl. Ali, be honest. How?

All that Viagra is a lie. If it stands up, which blood will remain for his heart to pump. That’s why they are dying anyhow.

Imagine my friend just went from park to see the husband in the office behind mega plaza and this girl that walk pass her at the reception had the same lip stick that stained her husband’s sokoto. And he went to mosque that day oooo.

shebi she came to collect the weekend money. My friend too collected 300k that day. So now every Friday she goes to his office. Then after, these same girls get married they will say they don’t want to catch their husbands with another girl. You can’t escape it. You will share him like you shared other people’s own.

Ali let me level with you if after 5years my husband doesn’t touch me I will find a young man that will do his job. Because I swear that he gets it from those little girls running around Lagos half dressed. So help me post this. Let them be ready for their own turn. Your husbands will be shared. They shall feel our pains too. If you like post it o.


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  1. Àgbidoro Oghenetèga

    Àgbidoro Oghenetèga

    November 29, 2016 at 10:33 am

    Let me come&be going

  2. Amaka Goodness

    Amaka Goodness

    November 29, 2016 at 10:54 am

    U lied

  3. Oluwafemi Vivian Olonade

    Oluwafemi Vivian Olonade

    November 29, 2016 at 11:40 am

    You are very correct ma, kudos to you for the write up

    • Okoh Patricia Ngufan

      Okoh Patricia Ngufan

      November 29, 2016 at 4:10 pm

      Some are not even up to that they are experiencing it, so all those single girls talking rubbish they will still experience it jus pray

  4. Aya Omo Oba

    Aya Omo Oba

    November 29, 2016 at 2:39 pm

    Let the older women leave ‘it’ for the younger generation.

    • Atinuke Okunrinla Adekunle

      Atinuke Okunrinla Adekunle

      November 29, 2016 at 5:37 pm

      Don’t forget ull become old one day, wat ure saying will be said to u too, then ull feel their pains. Wat goes ard comes ard.

    • Aya Omo Oba

      Aya Omo Oba

      November 29, 2016 at 5:48 pm

      Really? I’m not mocking the older women but I think there is time for everything, I don’t expect a woman of sixty and above who already has grandchildren to depend on ‘satisfaction from man’. I think how to make Heaven should be her priority. Meanwhile, I never meant it to be abusive

    • Adaeze Ibe Chidi

      Adaeze Ibe Chidi

      November 29, 2016 at 7:17 pm

      Seriously?! I think you are not considerate. Anyway wait till you are sixty, then come back with your indignation.

    • Aya Omo Oba

      Aya Omo Oba

      November 29, 2016 at 8:07 pm


  5. Stella Adaeze

    Stella Adaeze

    November 29, 2016 at 3:03 pm

    At 60, av i not gotten enough of sex

  6. Toyin Daodu

    Toyin Daodu

    November 29, 2016 at 9:17 pm

    This is serious issue that need to be solve, although it take the grace of God


    jerry ekwere

    December 11, 2016 at 11:47 am

    Permit my comment as a man. Have we forgotten that most men are in this situation too? Some wives consigned their husbands to the dustbin, refusing to attend to issues of the-other-room for one flimsy excuse or the other? What reason, either the husbands are poor or do not measure to standard, forgetting the vows made at the beginning. It is matter of different folks, different strokes.

  8. Olamide Adeyemi Fowode

    Olamide Adeyemi Fowode

    February 27, 2017 at 8:01 pm

    Hmmm. I am almost speechless. How can some men be so callous? Did the love dry up or the women are just not pretty anymore for them to touch? I feel so sad as to what some women have to go through all in the name of marriage/Mrs. Its actually very sad.

    • Folakemi Owolabi Ogungbe

      Folakemi Owolabi Ogungbe

      February 27, 2017 at 9:40 pm

      Maybe not intentionally. ..libido may be low due to age..or some other preoccupation. .or health challenges…you never can tell

    • Olamide Adeyemi Fowode

      Olamide Adeyemi Fowode

      February 28, 2017 at 11:38 am

      In this context i think it is intentional. Very intentional i must say. Low libido in 5 whole years. That is so not true. We all know these old men run after the young girls in town. If there is an issue with a man’s sex life the wife should be the first to know because she is the only one that can truly understand him.

  9. Olamide Adeyemi Fowode

    Olamide Adeyemi Fowode

    February 27, 2017 at 8:01 pm

    Laide Lanre Badmus

  10. Laide Lanre Badmus

    Laide Lanre Badmus

    February 27, 2017 at 8:06 pm


  11. Ololade Oyedun

    Ololade Oyedun

    February 27, 2017 at 8:16 pm

    Margret Onakome Uguseba

  12. Bolanle Olowe Akinlaja

    Bolanle Olowe Akinlaja

    February 27, 2017 at 8:56 pm

    Animasaun Victoria, read dis

  13. Atinuke Johnson

    Atinuke Johnson

    February 27, 2017 at 9:03 pm

    Osaetin Osagie-Ero

  14. Chizoba Mercy Nnajieme

    Chizoba Mercy Nnajieme

    February 27, 2017 at 9:17 pm


  15. Hilda Obidei

    Hilda Obidei

    February 27, 2017 at 9:41 pm

    Hmmmm this talk heavy for mouth ooo

  16. Chidinma Mbanaso Obi

    Chidinma Mbanaso Obi

    February 27, 2017 at 10:00 pm

    Na wa!!

  17. Cob Envent

    Cob Envent

    February 28, 2017 at 2:06 am

    Their wives’ bodies are no longer attractive to them with their diminishing libidos so they look for younger bodies who only give in to them because of their spending power and provision of security. The men forget that their bodies are also aging and would not be as attractive as before. Women use your sex toys if you must. YOLO

    • Bibi Zeox

      Bibi Zeox

      March 1, 2017 at 11:30 am

      Hmmmm… Can never feel same if you ask me. 🙂

  18. Udoh Naomi

    Udoh Naomi

    February 28, 2017 at 5:00 am

    If u ask me,
    Na who I go ask?.

  19. Olajumoke Okusanya Asiodu

    Olajumoke Okusanya Asiodu

    February 28, 2017 at 10:35 am

    Lol…..this woman go kill me with laughter. She talk am raw as e be ooo!

  20. Sanusi Zaynab Adaeze

    Sanusi Zaynab Adaeze

    February 28, 2017 at 1:18 pm

    Exactly what’s happening to many women

  21. Usiabulu Vivian Ehis Benikurukuru

    Usiabulu Vivian Ehis Benikurukuru

    February 28, 2017 at 5:11 pm

    Na wa oh

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