It is sad that many Nigerians still see marriage as the end-all be-all of life for women, and no matter what a woman has achieved she is not seen as complete until she gets married.
It doesn’t matter whether she is happy in her marriage or not, it doesn’t matter if the man is a monster, they choose the marital status of a woman above everything else she has done or been.
Not all women want to get married, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with their choice. They have everything they need to be happy and whole in themselves. Because marriage is your priority doesn’t mean it has to be everybody’s priority. Life is not a one size fit all!
Two days ago, media personality, Funmi Iyanda was heavily criticised when she revealed on twitter that she never wants to be married.
She said, “I have never wanted to be married. I like it for others who like it for themselves but as for me ms Funmi Iyanda, no, thank you.”
Some people who saw that as disrespect to nature began to question her and criticise her.
“She is a lesbian on the low.” “Give your life to Jesus.” “You need to have kids of your own, no time.” “Who is your service engineer? that place is gonna rot,” were some of the responses the media icon got.
In an article on her medium page, Funmi Iyanda has shared the childhood experiences that make her have a feeling of being trapped about marriage.
Here is her piece titled The Marriage Diary