Open Letter

Dear Seyi Hunter, They Said You Said We Should Allow Our Husbands ‘Test Other Waters’, Please Ma, I Have One Question For You

   




In the past few months, a few Nollywood actress have actually boldly said on social media that women should tolerate infidelity because it is in men’s nature to cheat. They strongly believe that all men will cheat and all women should not leave them because of that.

I read stuff like these from men and women of Nigeria many times and I just shake my head in amusement, but when I read this one that they said Seyi Hunter said, I remembered a video I had watched last week.

In the video, a woman confronted her ex-boyfriend who cheated on her many times during their relationship, she wanted to know why he cheated on her so much though she gave her everything to the relationship.

The guy in return asked  her why she stayed with him after finding out he was cheating.

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This was the most powerful part of the video for me. And I have been applying this to other situations in my life since then.

At some point in every woman’s life, we have to be honest to ourselves and answer this question. Must we stay with men that break our hearts, slap us here and there, treat us like trash, cheat on us, lie to us, destroy our esteem and infect us with STDs? Why should we stay with a man that we will need to give condoms and lubricants to go sleep with other women ? Isn’t this madness?

This is the question I have for Seyi Hunter, I have read what she was quoted as saying, but I am asking her, why should a woman stay with a man like this?

Below is what Seyi Hunter said according to Vanguard

It isn’t right for any lady to walk out of her marriage for any reason, except domestic violence is involved. I am not talking about occasional slaps here and there. If he beats you like he’ll beat a thief, my dear sister you need to run for your life because he might kill you one day or disfigure you.

But if you leave because of cheating, then you’re the most foolish person alive and you’re not going by the Holy Bible. The Bible says man shall not live by bread alone. You don’t expect him to eat Egusi soup the rest of his life; he has to eat Afang, Ogbono, etc, once in a while. Let’s not forget men are polygamous in nature, it’s been there right from the days of Abraham and it cannot be changed.

The way entertainers are ending their marriage is alarming. Is it that Ubi Franklin is a wife beater or Lilian Esoro left because he’s a chronic womanizer? Same goes for Tonto Dikeh and Churchill. If these ladies left their marriages for the latter, it means this generation is worse than I thought, because we’ve lost it.

No patience, understanding or endurance to allow the man test the waters once in a while. I hope they settle their issues, but if they won’t, let them hurry with the divorce, so that single girls can make their moves on these guys. Before the women eat me raw, women are not allowed to cheat. The men are to love us, care for us, support us in everything and provide for us, while we do all these and more for them.

Every smart woman will provide her man with condoms and lubrication and pray that the Holy Spirit guides them to use it on their side chicks, so they don’t bring infection home to us.

 

 

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44 Comments

44 Comments

  1. Kemy Ife

    Kemy Ife

    February 28, 2017 at 7:59 am

    It is called insanity

  2. Nneoma Amanda Onyeukwu

    Nneoma Amanda Onyeukwu

    February 28, 2017 at 8:01 am

    I can believe a woman said all that! I am so sad right now!

  3. Jennifer Anigbogu

    Jennifer Anigbogu

    February 28, 2017 at 8:15 am

    Lol. Please, I don’t understand why people think they should say everything, even some nonsense, that comes to mind. Especially all these so called celebrities. And to think she even quoted the Bible in that her silly post😒😒😒, and the point she made with the quotation was still out of context. Because when you said I do, you two did not know it’s a promise you made to God and man, and breaking that promise is a sin. And she even mentioned the Holy Spirit😪😪. I feel bad for you at the level of your ignorance. It’s actually not compulsory to say something in an interview or even put up a write up. And people should stop attaching so much importance to some of these celebrities and their silly advice. But really, who is she? Celebrity that people don’t know? I don’t know her, neither have I heard about her before this 😏

  4. Tosin Faustina Omosowon

    Tosin Faustina Omosowon

    February 28, 2017 at 8:46 am

    Also, instead of giving our husbands condoms n d rest why can’t we smart women genuinely give our lives to CHRIST and go on our KNEELS and INTERCEED for our husbands so that the love of Jesus Christ will be shared abroad in their hearts and will follow intimately the teachings of Christ. In so doing they will understand the principle of loving their wives and fleeing from all appearances of evil including adultery. Again, I will recommend d movie WARROOM. This movie is a very good guideline on how to control cheating and unloving husbands

  5. Faith Moses

    Faith Moses

    February 28, 2017 at 8:47 am

    Well the devil roams around seeking whom to devour.

  6. Nathaniel Comfort Uyai

    Nathaniel Comfort Uyai

    February 28, 2017 at 8:52 am

    Na hell fire if no repent but this one she mentioned the Holy Spirit will there be forgiveness for her. Cos Bible warn us to lie against the Holy Spirit. Seyi Seyi Seyi

  7. Chinyere Jessy Ezekwem

    Chinyere Jessy Ezekwem

    February 28, 2017 at 9:33 am

    Not making sense at all

  8. Helen Chichi

    Helen Chichi

    February 28, 2017 at 9:36 am

    Lol@ “they said u said”.

  9. Aruma Ifesinachi Asogwa

    Aruma Ifesinachi Asogwa

    February 28, 2017 at 9:36 am

    Most stupid girl and brain alive

  10. Irene Promise

    Irene Promise

    February 28, 2017 at 12:41 pm

    She is even stupid snd senseless to have uttered such . Let her allow her husband to taste other waters . She should not suggest such senseless talk to the public

  11. Amadi Christabel

    Amadi Christabel

    February 28, 2017 at 1:00 pm

    Pls your husband alone not mine, useless woman

  12. Olusanya Ajishebioyo Ebun

    Olusanya Ajishebioyo Ebun

    February 28, 2017 at 1:02 pm

    This seyi hunter is saying she can’t do it, I don’t think she’s married or into a strong relationship! When u love someone u got to be jealous of that person. Saying that man should be allowed to go out and taste Egusi, ogbono and so on and even using the bible to support it. The bible says a man, a woman will live his/her parent and Clive to each other and they will become one, same bible say wife respect ur husband, honour him and it’s says husband love ur wife, as ur own body! If a man truely love his wife he won’t turn her into a punching bag and he won’t cheat on her, even if he do, he will not let it affect his marriage. The writer do not no what she’s saying, how does another persons issue concern u, must u advise or put up a write up? I don’t think u know what u are sayin by involving the holy spirit into such immorality, if u don’t know what to say just keep ur quite and face ur own business, go get urself a man and let him cheat on u and even turn u into a punching bag and let see if u can stay in the marriage. Ladies beware of whose advise u take. She’s looking for fame.

  13. Kemi Oyekunle

    Kemi Oyekunle

    February 28, 2017 at 3:02 pm

    Senseless talk from her mouth, don’t think she’s married

  14. Oluwatoyin Oluwasayo Habihodun

    Oluwatoyin Oluwasayo Habihodun

    February 28, 2017 at 4:40 pm

    The moment when ones brain is on break.

  15. Lydia Jobdi Jobdi

    Lydia Jobdi Jobdi

    February 28, 2017 at 5:47 pm

    A disgrace to women hood,just hear wetin u dey talk,d Bible said man shall not live by bread alon and u interpret it to ur stupidity and understand about men abi,pls in Dis case no dey use Bible as reference, it will never encourage men to be unfaithful to dere wives ,just because dey don’t want to be eating okoro soup continuously,if u bear your own and take the cross of you allowing your husband to be changing soups pls don’t encourage others

  16. Bisola Sereno Collins

    Bisola Sereno Collins

    February 28, 2017 at 8:03 pm

    Seriously are u married? Hmmmmm I bow for u sis

  17. Stephanie Egbezor

    Stephanie Egbezor

    February 28, 2017 at 10:24 pm

    The most annoying thing is Sheyi Hunter quoting and misinterpreting the bible. I will advice you make research on that verse of the bible

  18. Amina Oghenerhona Omokri

    Amina Oghenerhona Omokri

    March 1, 2017 at 1:07 am

    The beating like a thief starts with the occasional slaps here and there…?!

  19. Sarah Queen

    Sarah Queen

    March 1, 2017 at 8:52 am

    I can’t believe dis words came out from a woman like me……. am so pissed, seriously is she for real? how can a woman allow her husband to test other waters? really a woman is not allowed to cheat? so cheating is d birth right of everyman? may God help dis generation…. pls next time don’t misinterpret d holy Bible, d bible made us to understand that divorce is permitted on d ground of adultery, that is to say d bible doesn’t support cheating…….. if he cheats walk out on him, cos if he truly loves u as his own flesh he wouldn’t cheat……. men pls stop cheating, u can’t cheat n expect ur wife nt to cheat, y den did u marry her.. If as a man u want to test other waters pls dnt marry yet, wen u ar done testing u can now look fr a partner to settle with.. # do unto ur spouse wat u want ur spouse to do unto u# say no to cheating # cheating brings distrust, sickness both physical n spiritual, untimely death, stagnation, discord in D family, hatred, separation, distrust and many more negative things, pls cheating has no advantages only disadvantages # team say no to CHEATING #

  20. Anjorin Tolulope Adebiyi

    Anjorin Tolulope Adebiyi

    March 1, 2017 at 9:02 am

    I hope the woman is allowed to test other waters and eat different soups too.

  21. Tolulope Osasona Bamidele

    Tolulope Osasona Bamidele

    March 1, 2017 at 11:59 am

    This Seyi Hunter should just stop talking, yarning dust here n there

    • Tolulope Osasona Bamidele

      Tolulope Osasona Bamidele

      March 1, 2017 at 12:01 pm

      Man shall not live by bread alone, why didn’t she complete the entire verse of the Bible. Ode

  22. Cynthia Adaobi Nwaobi

    Cynthia Adaobi Nwaobi

    March 1, 2017 at 12:47 pm

    All sins can be forgiven except the sin against the Holy spirit…..I pity her for bringing the Holy one to her immoral talk.

  23. Eloh O Stephania

    Eloh O Stephania

    March 1, 2017 at 1:30 pm

    Truely we are in the end time,dont blame her must bcos he sarves the devil and not God.

  24. Sotonye Amachree

    Sotonye Amachree

    March 1, 2017 at 1:41 pm

    nt all post on social media is true.so people nt all post ar to be commented on

  25. Blessing Ahaotu

    Blessing Ahaotu

    March 1, 2017 at 5:05 pm

    End time

  26. Taiwo Ajayi

    Taiwo Ajayi

    March 1, 2017 at 6:52 pm

    Don’t mind d yeye lady, she does d same wit peoples husband. #Wehdone Ma

  27. Precious Grace Shonbang

    Precious Grace Shonbang

    March 1, 2017 at 7:23 pm

    Mtcheeeeew, Can u Imagine???

  28. Adaku Chibuzor

    Adaku Chibuzor

    March 1, 2017 at 7:55 pm

    Illiteracy is an incurable disease

  29. Jonathan Olohi Hossana

    Jonathan Olohi Hossana

    March 1, 2017 at 8:00 pm

    seyi Hunter abi? “hunter indeed” your message is from the pit of hell!..God have mercy on you. “…day of Abraham” in what testament do we live in? shea your bible doesn’t state thus “….’A’ man shall cleave to his wife…” baa? and in referring to the old Testament, what good did polygamy bring using the latter as a case study? you dear lift and use the portion that talks about ”…bread and Word of God” to drive home as you might have thought it did your senseless point right? how about using Joseph of old to drive home a reasonable Godly point! If you think there are no reserved men who wouldn’t say ‘NO’ to evil, check your Bible to know the response God gave Elisha the Prophet when he complained to God that he was the only Prophet of HIS remaining. Do not pollute the minds of those who has set their minds to be distinct. as a mater of fact, by Gods grace you cant. God still rules in the affairs of man, He knows does that are His and let he who names the name of the Lord depart from evil/iniquity. And least I forget, God would never sacrifice a child for another. In other words, He pays you in your own coin. live rough, you’d definitely get a ‘dog’ for a husband. except in the case of “Mercy”. to my dear questioner, God never lacks men… there are those He has reserved to give Him glory. Not all men are infidel. all things been equal, if your man turns out what not.. you can “settle it on your knees” but remember God is not wicked during the time of dating and courting, He must/always show you the signs its just that most times we pretend to be blind. God have mercy on you Hunter I sugest you re-visit your Bible as I can say from your quote that you perhaps have one. In all, the Bible (God Word) is our standard not celebrities. I rest my case.

    • Florence Ugenlo

      Florence Ugenlo

      March 1, 2017 at 11:46 pm

      Man of God, it was Elijah and not Elisha. Good response though.

  30. Amaka Esther

    Amaka Esther

    March 1, 2017 at 9:05 pm

    A wise man build his woman.a wise woman build her home.that’s life is meant to be.even if all hubbies cheat,mine wudnt .

  31. Adeola Adekanbi

    Adeola Adekanbi

    March 1, 2017 at 10:35 pm

    Women and self esteem issues.Values are values ,let’s value ourselves and never let ppl define us even situations surrounding us. keep living no excuses.

  32. Fabiawari Ikiriko

    Fabiawari Ikiriko

    March 1, 2017 at 11:31 pm

    what about the women, right from beginning of creation, na woman wey first disobey God, na woman wey Satan use, or don’t women cheat, why are you people always saying bad about. After all if sellers no dey buyers no go dey.

    • maryjane11226@gmail.com'

      Maryjane

      April 3, 2017 at 9:34 am

      It wasn’t a woman that first disobeyed God. Bcos, she wasn’t instructed. God gave Adam the instruction not to eat one of the fruit in the garden. He failed in his duty to direct his wife Eve. (A man is the director of his Wife). Not having the knowledge, it was easy for the devil to get her, Eve. Even God did not question Eve, it was Adam.

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