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“I Rejected The Status Of Motherhood And Marriage To A Man As The Only Most Important Achievement Every Woman Should Have” – Unoma Azuah


(Jose M. Osorio / Chicago Tribune)

In Nigeria, the punishment for same-sex marriage is 14 years imprisonment. Apart from that, homosexuals are  constantly in danger of stigmatisation and even being lynched. Because of this, many homosexuals in Nigeria have had to leave the country for safety.

Unoma Azuah, a Nigerian-US based writer, left Nigeria for a place where she would be accepted. After touring different states in the US, she finally settled down at Chicago.

Unoma who now teaches writing at the Illinois Institute of Art in Chicago, researches on lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender rights in Nigeria.

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In a letter titled, An ode to Chicago: My city of refuge published on Chicago Tribune, Unoma wrote on how Chicago accepted her and now it is her city of refuge.

“I left Nigeria because of my sexual orientation. I left Nigeria because I would not sacrifice my life to please some of my country’s cultural norms and new wave religions. I left Nigeria because I rejected the status of motherhood and marriage to a man as the only most important achievement every woman should have. I left Nigeria because I want Freedom” she said in the article.

Read full article at “An ode to Chicago: My city of refuge


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  1. Onyinyechi Amos

    Onyinyechi Amos

    March 4, 2017 at 9:05 pm

    we Nigerians doesn’t even need you .mean while you can stay there as long as you wish

  2. Olalere Godwin

    Olalere Godwin

    March 4, 2017 at 11:41 pm

    Shameless woman u don’t belong here…Even if u decided to lve inside the zoo they will reject you…

  3. Tessa Doghor

    Tessa Doghor

    March 5, 2017 at 6:41 am

    You can have all three…

    Just balance it

  4. Àgbidoro Oghenetèga

    Àgbidoro Oghenetèga

    March 5, 2017 at 9:23 am

    And she looks like orangutan. Stay there with your possessed sexual kinikonn



    March 5, 2017 at 3:26 pm

    Your greatest mistake was when u left ur mum in search of freedom because she wanted to dicipline you.You must repent from ur wayward life and think like a normal being.Pls don’t come back to corrupt our young ones with ur bad philosophy.We are proud of who we were created to be,we don’t want gay,lesbian or whatever name u choose to call it in our country.
    We will not adopt any thing contrary.

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