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“I Realised That My Mum Is Going To Forget Me, She’s Not Even Going To Know That She Had Me” – Uriel Oputa On Her Mother’s Struggles With Dementia

   

 

One of the hardest thing for any child, is to see their parents’ health degenerate and not be able to do anything about it, especially when they suffer from an incurable disease.

Ex-Big Brother Naija housemate, Uriel Oputa has debuted her new vlog, called, Diary Sessions with Uriel and on this episode, she talked about her experience with depression. She explained how seeing her mother suffer from dementia contributed to her depression.

Dementia is a chronic or persistent disorder of the mental processes caused by brain disease or injury and marked by memory disorders, personality changes and impaired reasoning.

Narrating her mother’s everyday struggles with dementia and how it affected her,

Uriel said,

My mum is a dementia sufferer who forgets who I am, who she is and becomes childlike and won’t be able to do a lot of things and that added to my depression. It was a really bad phase.

There was a situation where I came back from church, me and mom was gisting, I helped her, sat her down to off her jacket and I asked her, ‘mommy do you want to eat, I want to make some jollof rice,’ and she said yes and that I should add meat.

So I went to the kitchen, prepared the food, served hers and I carried the tray to meet her in the sitting room but immediately she saw me, she was like, ‘hey Jesus, blood of Jesus, blood of Jesus, who is this dark woman?’ and I said, mom it’s me, it’s Uriel and she was like, ‘oh God, this woman wants to hurt me,’ and I said ‘mom I’m your daughter, it’s uriel.’

I knew my mum was sick and the doctors told me this would happen but I never knew it would happen so soon .

My mum insulted my life that day. She called me black, called me orobo…… My mum was going crazy, so I called my brothers to tell them what was going on and they asked me to calm down and get a picture. So I went into the room and got a family picture of all of us. So I was showing her the people in the pictures and when it got to me, she recognized me.

That was the hardest day in my life to realise that my mum is going to forget me and she is not going to know who I am, she’s not going to know my favourite colours , she’s not even going to know my date of birth, she’s not even going to know that she had me.

Watch the touching video below

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66 Comments

66 Comments

  1. Aeesha Jibril

    Aeesha Jibril

    April 21, 2017 at 1:56 pm

    This uriel and plenty story self…

    • Ijeoma Vivian Aguonyia

      Ijeoma Vivian Aguonyia

      April 21, 2017 at 2:36 pm

      Shut up!!!!!!! Just shut up. May dementia not strike you. Insensitive ass!

    • Aeesha Jibril

      Aeesha Jibril

      April 21, 2017 at 2:39 pm

      Shut up!!! u too, may dementia not strike ur insultive and insensitive mouth too ,mtcheeeeew

  2. Princess Amenze Onaghinor

    Princess Amenze Onaghinor

    April 21, 2017 at 2:10 pm

    Who sent you to read the plenty story self….

  3. Chidinma Janefrances

    Chidinma Janefrances

    April 21, 2017 at 2:12 pm

    Its so sad

  4. Martha Ezinwanne Ikejiuba Oba

    Martha Ezinwanne Ikejiuba Oba

    April 21, 2017 at 2:15 pm

    An you read the plenty story madam, people and insensitivity.

  5. Emeto Chinyere

    Emeto Chinyere

    April 21, 2017 at 2:16 pm

    Ndo oo

  6. Udeme UdsPro Makeover Abel

    Udeme UdsPro Makeover Abel

    April 21, 2017 at 2:19 pm

    It’s sad… I can understand how u feel.

  7. Moriam Atinuke Oshodi

    Moriam Atinuke Oshodi

    April 21, 2017 at 2:20 pm

    BBC has an article published today about a drug that cures dementia. She should look into it.😔

  8. Safiya Mohammed

    Safiya Mohammed

    April 21, 2017 at 2:21 pm

    I feel for her

  9. Ifi Geonice

    Ifi Geonice

    April 21, 2017 at 2:22 pm

    O! Take it easy dear….

  10. Bolanle Stephen

    Bolanle Stephen

    April 21, 2017 at 2:47 pm

    So sorry dear
    All will be well

  11. Hannah Bestman

    Hannah Bestman

    April 21, 2017 at 3:10 pm

    This must be so hard for u, just keep praying for her

  12. Jennifer Shimfuo Daniel Abba

    Jennifer Shimfuo Daniel Abba

    April 21, 2017 at 3:10 pm

    its well dear……madam sayin uriel liks plenty story,pray u dnt Eva experience such cux blif me,u will wish u Neva said dix…..

  13. Uju Nadis

    Uju Nadis

    April 21, 2017 at 3:20 pm

    It is well

  14. Maria Ijeoma

    Maria Ijeoma

    April 21, 2017 at 3:25 pm

    i guez this buf isnt true

    • Hope Godfrey

      Hope Godfrey

      April 21, 2017 at 3:33 pm

      How do u know its not true??? Were u there???
      Pple go through Lotta stuffs u dunno about

    • Nzekwe Ezichim

      Nzekwe Ezichim

      April 21, 2017 at 3:46 pm

      That’s harsh.. It’s the truth

  15. Veronica Sunday

    Veronica Sunday

    April 21, 2017 at 3:32 pm

    So sad….it will b fyn dear

  16. Chioma Okoyefi

    Chioma Okoyefi

    April 21, 2017 at 3:46 pm

    It’s sad what people go through in life. Maybe she be better, I pray

  17. Chichi Onyeaka

    Chichi Onyeaka

    April 21, 2017 at 3:51 pm

    It shall be well.

  18. Alabi Lyndah Misan

    Alabi Lyndah Misan

    April 21, 2017 at 3:55 pm

    Oh Dearie….only God knows all that going on around you. It’s clothes,makesups,wigs et al that makes us look like we do not have problems! I only wish your mom miraculous healing in the mighty name of Jesus Christ.

  19. Uloma Jacklyn Achilike

    Uloma Jacklyn Achilike

    April 21, 2017 at 3:57 pm

    Very painful

  20. Lizzy Anyira

    Lizzy Anyira

    April 21, 2017 at 4:04 pm

    It must be really difficult. But i hear there is alot of medical advancement in the treatment of dementia.. I know it will involve plenty funds but there is hope.. Be strong ,girl.

  21. Augusta Patrick

    Augusta Patrick

    April 21, 2017 at 4:06 pm

    Too bad,it’s well,God knows the best tk hrt

  22. Faith Eguavon

    Faith Eguavon

    April 21, 2017 at 4:15 pm

    Sounds painful. Dearest Uriel God will heal ur Mum IJN

  23. Anastasia Ifunanya

    Anastasia Ifunanya

    April 21, 2017 at 4:16 pm

    Take heart my dear, Merciful Jesus will heal her in Jesus name, amen.

  24. Chioma Morah

    Chioma Morah

    April 21, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    Its a very painful experience 4 a young woman to go through alone & she put her dreams on pause to nurse her mum. I knw exactly wat she went tru coz my granny had dementia & she cudn’t rememba giving birth to any of her 6 childrn. She was aggressive sometimes & She evn 4got d name of ha only daughter/favourite child my mum who nursed ha till death. She wud put empty pot on fire & 4get. Once, she evn burnt her house & herself bcoz she 4got d boiler. U can’t leave such people alone for a few mins. God will keep blessing Uriel.

  25. Bilkis Zakariya

    Bilkis Zakariya

    April 21, 2017 at 4:34 pm

    Dis is really touching but it is well just b strong

  26. Jessica Utobuiro Oluwalana

    Jessica Utobuiro Oluwalana

    April 21, 2017 at 4:37 pm

    God will heal her Amen, there’s really God cannot do

  27. Comfort Oyiza Adekwu

    Comfort Oyiza Adekwu

    April 21, 2017 at 4:52 pm

    Its well wit you and her, supernatural healing is her portion IJN

  28. Hannah Adishi

    Hannah Adishi

    April 21, 2017 at 5:15 pm

    Is well with her my dear. Shall be well again

  29. Noblelady Opara

    Noblelady Opara

    April 21, 2017 at 5:16 pm

    I don’t see anything funny there..

  30. Ijeoma Vivian Aguonyia

    Ijeoma Vivian Aguonyia

    April 21, 2017 at 5:29 pm

  31. Iness Sililo

    Iness Sililo

    April 21, 2017 at 5:55 pm

    Not funny.

  32. Ifeoma Maryjane

    Ifeoma Maryjane

    April 21, 2017 at 6:45 pm

    God bless you dear for being there for her

  33. Esther Iboro Samuel

    Esther Iboro Samuel

    April 21, 2017 at 7:13 pm

    God will heal your mum IJN

  34. Olubukola Folawe

    Olubukola Folawe

    April 21, 2017 at 10:52 pm

    It is well with u and your mum dear.thank God we didn’t look like what we’ve been through.may God give her total healness

  35. Okundaye Jennifer

    Okundaye Jennifer

    April 21, 2017 at 11:24 pm

    Who is putting the laugh emoji there
    Mtcheeeeeew, u think it’s funny 😢😢

    • Suzan Francis

      Suzan Francis

      April 22, 2017 at 12:19 am

      Dnt mind them they take everything as joke i pray they dnt come across such too

  36. Jimoh Onozasi Hafsat

    Jimoh Onozasi Hafsat

    April 22, 2017 at 1:45 am

    Pls always read a complete article before putting ur laugh emoji. I feel for you sis. The lord is ur strength

  37. Jimoh Onozasi Hafsat

    Jimoh Onozasi Hafsat

    April 22, 2017 at 1:46 am

    Whatever ma, it’s still not funny.

  38. Abiodun Makanjuola

    Abiodun Makanjuola

    April 22, 2017 at 3:07 am

    It is well dear

  39. Kigho Kesiena Lisa

    Kigho Kesiena Lisa

    April 22, 2017 at 3:52 am

    My grandmother had a similar experience,tho she is late now ,she had dementia she didn’t recognize any of us ,it was so sad 😪 I no how she feels

  40. Maureen Ifeanyi

    Maureen Ifeanyi

    April 22, 2017 at 7:03 am

    Not funny abeg!

  41. Perpetual Chinenye Omotoye

    Perpetual Chinenye Omotoye

    April 22, 2017 at 8:48 am

    My diary session babe.
    Nwanem i dey feel ur pain.
    The lord is ur strenght.

  42. OJ Noah Topaz

    OJ Noah Topaz

    April 22, 2017 at 9:12 am

    What a pity . I pray she gets better

  43. Rachael Kalio Abby

    Rachael Kalio Abby

    April 22, 2017 at 9:51 am

    Not sure you are OK,like seriously

  44. Rachael Kalio Abby

    Rachael Kalio Abby

    April 22, 2017 at 9:51 am

    Its well

  45. Chidi Mary

    Chidi Mary

    April 22, 2017 at 11:39 am

    It always hurt, just be prayerful, she will be fine again.

  46. Chinelo Comfort Ndupu

    Chinelo Comfort Ndupu

    April 22, 2017 at 12:48 pm

    Na wa for you o Fowokemi Ogedengbe,even if you feel its a story that is meant to ” gain public sympathy ” … must you use such harsh words? What if she was telling the truth? If u found yourself in her predicament and someone replies you thus,how will you feel? Life is so unpredictable,no one knows tomorrow,words are like broken eggs,when uttered it can never be taken back.

  47. Christiana Taylor

    Christiana Taylor

    April 22, 2017 at 4:23 pm

    Just take it easy Uriel it well God know the best I love you sis you where the best fans for me amongst the big brother much love sis

  48. Chiamaka Oragwu Ifepe

    Chiamaka Oragwu Ifepe

    April 22, 2017 at 6:17 pm

    Wow

  49. Joy Ijoga

    Joy Ijoga

    April 22, 2017 at 8:56 pm

    My dear there’s nothing that God cannot do. He is the greatest physician master healer the greatest doctor, I want you to always look upon him and believe that it will b well. Okkk.

  50. Faith Chikeka

    Faith Chikeka

    April 22, 2017 at 11:23 pm

    Fowokemi ogedengbe wehdonma, u too haf gotten ur social media fame, congrats..

  51. Amaka Ihe

    Amaka Ihe

    April 23, 2017 at 12:04 am

    kemi this issue is as serious as losing someone to death..n u are here talking of fine or no fine..u u fine? cos if u think u are in some others eyes u are not…uriel is black n beautiful

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