One of the hardest thing for any child, is to see their parents’ health degenerate and not be able to do anything about it, especially when they suffer from an incurable disease.
Ex-Big Brother Naija housemate, Uriel Oputa has debuted her new vlog, called, Diary Sessions with Uriel and on this episode, she talked about her experience with depression. She explained how seeing her mother suffer from dementia contributed to her depression.
Dementia is a chronic or persistent disorder of the mental processes caused by brain disease or injury and marked by memory disorders, personality changes and impaired reasoning.
Narrating her mother’s everyday struggles with dementia and how it affected her,
My mum is a dementia sufferer who forgets who I am, who she is and becomes childlike and won’t be able to do a lot of things and that added to my depression. It was a really bad phase.
There was a situation where I came back from church, me and mom was gisting, I helped her, sat her down to off her jacket and I asked her, ‘mommy do you want to eat, I want to make some jollof rice,’ and she said yes and that I should add meat.
So I went to the kitchen, prepared the food, served hers and I carried the tray to meet her in the sitting room but immediately she saw me, she was like, ‘hey Jesus, blood of Jesus, blood of Jesus, who is this dark woman?’ and I said, mom it’s me, it’s Uriel and she was like, ‘oh God, this woman wants to hurt me,’ and I said ‘mom I’m your daughter, it’s uriel.’
I knew my mum was sick and the doctors told me this would happen but I never knew it would happen so soon .
My mum insulted my life that day. She called me black, called me orobo…… My mum was going crazy, so I called my brothers to tell them what was going on and they asked me to calm down and get a picture. So I went into the room and got a family picture of all of us. So I was showing her the people in the pictures and when it got to me, she recognized me.
That was the hardest day in my life to realise that my mum is going to forget me and she is not going to know who I am, she’s not going to know my favourite colours , she’s not even going to know my date of birth, she’s not even going to know that she had me.
Watch the touching video below