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“Getting Married Is Not An Achievement Nor A Proof Of A Woman’s Worth” – Sonia Ogbonna

   

 

In our society today, when a man is cheating on his wife with another woman, the other woman is called out and labeled a whore. But the man?

Sonia Ogbonna, life coach and relationship expert, on her Instagram page lamented about the double standard in that.

According to her, women should tackle the problem which is the man and stop shaming the other woman who may or not know whether the man is married.

She said,

I’M SO SICK OF DOUBLE STANDARDS. Help me understand this please: so when a woman cheats on her man, y’all don’t call a side dude “home breaker” and “wife snatcher”. Instead, wife is labeled as an irresponsible whore.

When a man cheats on his woman, it’s not a man that you will blame. You justify his actions just because,(even though in most cases his married self is the one throwing bread at them babes) and it’s all “side chick’s” fault.

She is the one you will abuse, insult and call names, “husband snatcher aka home breaker”..etc… I don’t get.. The most painful thing is, it’s WOMEN who support, accept and teach their daughters to live according such double standards, not even men sef.

It’s your fellow lady that will call you names and point fingers at you. Stop shaming one another all in the name of idiotic competition based on jealousy and personal insecurities among women. YOUR MAN DOES NOT TREAT YOU RIGHT BECAUSE YOU SETTLED FOR IT AND ALLOWED IT , NOT BECAUSE OF ANOTHER WOMAN.

The reason why women are so bitter, angry, unhappy, lonely and ready to tolerate and settle for nonsense is because they seek the approval of their own worth from men since they are not familiar with it themselves. Purpose of your existence is not all about getting yourself a man.

Getting married is NOT an achievement nor a proof of a woman’s worth. There is so much more to that. Get your life right before becoming someone’s wife. Seek your worth within yourself before you expect it from HIM to acknowledge it.

I'M SO SICK OF DOUBLE STANDARDS. Help me understand this please: so when a woman cheats on her man ,y'all don't call a side dude "home breaker" and "wife snatcher". Instead,wife is labeled as an irresponsible whore. When a man cheats on his woman,it's not a man that you will blame. You justify his actions just because,(even though in most cases his married self is the one throwing bread at them babes) and it's all "side chick's" fault. She is the one you will abuse,insult and call names,"husband snatcher aka home breaker"..etc… I don't get.. The most painful thing is, it's WOMEN who support,accept and teach their daughters to live according such double standards,not even men sef. It's your fellow lady that will call you names and point fingers at you. Stop shaming one another all in the name of idiotic competition based on jealousy and personal insecurities among women. YOUR MAN DOES NOT TREAT YOU RIGHT BECAUSE YOU SETTLED FOR IT AND ALLOWED IT ,NOT BECAUSE OF ANOTHER WOMAN. #soniaogbonna

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39 Comments

39 Comments

  1. Harriet Martinéz

    Harriet Martinéz

    May 14, 2017 at 11:41 am

    👍👍

  2. Chioma Victoria

    Chioma Victoria

    May 14, 2017 at 11:43 am

    So true!!!!

  3. Adekunle Busayo Tgairl

    Adekunle Busayo Tgairl

    May 14, 2017 at 11:46 am

    BT its so fun been a married woman says me love my baby

  4. Ruth Oveno

    Ruth Oveno

    May 14, 2017 at 11:53 am

    And you run leave your country come tie one Nigerian man down here.abi?

    • Mfon Inock

      Mfon Inock

      May 14, 2017 at 12:56 pm

      No mind am

    • ofiaelichinedu@gmail.com'

      Adaku

      May 14, 2017 at 1:04 pm

      You can run back to her country and see who you can tie up.

    • Habiba Aminu

      Habiba Aminu

      May 14, 2017 at 3:43 pm

      No mind the yeye lady. She thinks she now understands our ways cos she’s married to a Nigerian. Who asked for her opinion sef? Mtscheeew

    • Roselyn Godwin

      Roselyn Godwin

      May 15, 2017 at 8:37 am

      Habiba Aminu and Mfon Inock she said the truth, our ways or not we should always remember we have self worth with or without a man. I hope you understand that someday.

    • Patrick Olivia

      Patrick Olivia

      May 15, 2017 at 4:28 pm

      Did you guys read the article at all??. Smh

    • Ruth Oveno

      Ruth Oveno

      May 15, 2017 at 5:40 pm

      na lie oo.we need the men as dem need us.na God talk am.ah ah!if not she for now see our guy for skype fine am come,get belle,born for am come marry am.shuo.ok make leave our guy nau and do her self worth.we need dem dem need us.

  5. Sonia Benson

    Sonia Benson

    May 14, 2017 at 12:15 pm

    Very true.

  6. Iserhienrien Stella Graced

    Iserhienrien Stella Graced

    May 14, 2017 at 12:30 pm

    Well said

  7. Mfon Inock

    Mfon Inock

    May 14, 2017 at 12:56 pm

    Why u marry then?

  8. Idorenyin Obobo

    Idorenyin Obobo

    May 14, 2017 at 1:23 pm

    And its conveniently proceeding forth the mouth of a married woman….. Mtchew

  9. Bridget Udeme Udofia

    Bridget Udeme Udofia

    May 14, 2017 at 1:27 pm

    Hmm

  10. Bennie Uko

    Bennie Uko

    May 14, 2017 at 1:30 pm

    I am a married woman too but she is right. It’s just that this part of the World, it is difficult for us to understand such things. That you are married or not married should never be a ground for measuring one’s worth.

  11. Ijeoma Vera

    Ijeoma Vera

    May 14, 2017 at 2:12 pm

    Yes she is right!!

  12. Augustina Macaulay

    Augustina Macaulay

    May 14, 2017 at 2:18 pm

    On point

  13. Tochukwu Ifeoma Dorris

    Tochukwu Ifeoma Dorris

    May 14, 2017 at 2:42 pm

    👍

  14. Alby Ruby

    Alby Ruby

    May 14, 2017 at 2:46 pm

    Ppl are abusing and disrespecting her instead of reading to understand, the reason Africans will never learn, they are quick to judge and accuse someone, whether she is married or not, she is educating the truth period.

  15. Adamu Aliyu

    Adamu Aliyu

    May 14, 2017 at 6:14 pm

    Since you are in Africa u must live the way they are. u can’t change it. African culture and traditions

  16. Idahosa Isoken

    Idahosa Isoken

    May 14, 2017 at 6:18 pm

    So correct, ride on sister

  17. Noblelady Opara

    Noblelady Opara

    May 14, 2017 at 6:20 pm

    My dear,
    When you get married to the RIGHT MAN, IT’S AN ACHIEVEMENT because it’s not easy to say yes to the right man amongst all these wolves in sheep’s clothing!

    PS: if you wanna argue, do it with your ancestors 😏😏

    #peace ✌

  18. Kenya MY

    Kenya MY

    May 14, 2017 at 6:42 pm

    This headline is not about the article.

  19. Princess Eminence Joy Collins

    Princess Eminence Joy Collins

    May 14, 2017 at 9:03 pm

    Very right my dear.

  20. Omolola Akinyemi

    Omolola Akinyemi

    May 14, 2017 at 9:19 pm

    Hmm. Come to think of it, majority of witches as we know it in Africa have been women – angry, vengeful women; silent killers. Outwardly reacting almost to nothing except to look sheepish and simple, but ‘finishing’ their husbands and relatives without trace or suspicion. I have seen real evidences of this happening around. As long as the tradition of abusing women remains, such societies are in for shocks and terrors whose only explanation is – witchcraft.

  21. Adegbe Faith

    Adegbe Faith

    May 15, 2017 at 8:23 am

    Very true

  22. Nkee Anuforo

    Nkee Anuforo

    May 15, 2017 at 8:51 am

    Very right

  23. Fatima Askira

    Fatima Askira

    May 15, 2017 at 9:51 am

    I can’t express enough how much I love this post.

  24. Patrick Olivia

    Patrick Olivia

    May 15, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    I just pray and hope for when we at least get to open articles read them before making comments. Smh.

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