Ebukun Gbemisola Ogunyemi is our guest on the 15 QUESTIONS Series today!
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Ebukun Gbemisola Ogunyemi also known as ibukunwrites is a writer. She answers
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If you were the President for one day and you have the power to fix one thing in Nigeria, what will it be and WHY?
Well. . . I think it’d take more than a day to right certain wrongs in this country. Notwithstanding, I think I might probably just organize a roundtable discussion to be aired on virtually all television and radio networks where everybody gets to participate from home and from venue letting out our grievances on marginalization in each tribe and as Nigerian Youths and see ways we can coexist as way forward without having to go our separate ways.
What is the most annoying thing you have heard people say about women in Nigeria?
I’ve heard a lot but I think the one that stands out for me presently is the fact that some Nigerian men think that the rediscovery and regeneration of a Nigerian woman are to be blamed on feminism-brainwashing; like women in Nigeria have had their sense of respect and traditionalism towards men washed away by feminism.
What is the one most important thing about being a woman that you would want your daughter to know?
I would want my daughter to know that nothing about being a woman is ordinary. And that it is very okay to make mistakes; a little slip here and there doesn’t make one a write-off. The goal is to be imperfectly perfect. Never should she allow anyone
to give her a standard of perfection to aspire to. She is her own definition of perfection and if she must ever look for it elsewhere, let her find it in Christ.
Do you believe in gender equality? Why or why not?
Yes, I do believe in gender equality because I strongly believe no gender is inferior or superior to the other. I think our problem is every man (including the boyfriends, male classmates and co-workers etc.) wants to apply the biblical rule of a man is the head of a woman just like Christ is the head of the church outside of the home and being the head doesn’t equal subjugation. If before God, a man and a woman are the same, I don’t see why that should be any different before man. . . and all these crappy tales about nine bones and seven bones. . . don’t know where people got it from . . . (call me a Feminist now, won’t mind).
If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old, which would you choose?
I would go for the body. . . my mind at 90 would be definitely one to kill for and I wouldn’t wanna swap that for my mind at 30. You know how cool it would be to have such deep vault of knowledge and wealth of experiences at 90 perfectly cased in a 30s body? Dang! That’s like being Adaline Bowman (in a way though).
What is your opinion of the Nigerian woman?
I think the Nigerian woman is no longer hostile to the 21st Century. I think she understands that her value is in herself and she’s complete even without a man.
I think she knows now that no one can pressure her to aspire to marriage before she’s ready unless she gives consent. I think she understands that she can be anything, do anything without her sex being a barrier. I’m sure she understands a man needs her just as much as she needs him and not a woman needs a man more ideology.
If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one special quality or ability, what would it be?
Hmmm! I think personally, that would be having the ability to wipe off bad memories and retain just the good ones and where it concerns more than me; I would love the ability to meet the needs of people who matters just by saying it. Like if a boy is hungry, let me just pronounce the food to existence . . . you know! It would be easier than having to deal with the agonizing effect of wishing you had the means.
If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know? Why or why not?
Well, there was a time I used to wish I could see the future . . . what my end will look like maybe it’d help me not to give up for a minute but overtime, it didn’t matter. . . then I started wishing I had seen into the future 2-3 years maybe it’d have helped me prepare towards certain challenges I had to experience but I think now, I’d rather not want to know ‘cause not knowing over the years had sort of built a person who would keep on even if she doesn’t know until forever.
Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item What would it be? Why?
Whoooops! I don’t want to say anything . . . cos really, it would be nothing because I’ve lost a ton of documents, research that has taken years and had to start over without fire incidents . . . so, I’m not sure there’d be anything I wanna risk entering that fire for again when I have my loved ones . . . but if I want to be normal, I’d say my phone ‘cause I do virtually everything with my phone.
If you don’t have to worry about making money, what would you do all day?
Ah! I love the pleasure a lot and that includes writing ‘cos it’s pleasurable. So minus writing, I’d watch a ton of series, travel to places I love starting with Italy, then I’d waste away trying and making amazing recipes from all over the world and listening to good music.
If you could go back in time, what year would you travel to? What happened that year?
Hmmm. It would have been 2011. I would have listened to my body and pass the night on that cold Pit Theatre slab but rather I chose to go home and it felt like if I had stayed back, I would have prevented so many issues I had to deal with later on but if there’s anything I’ve learnt, it is that time-travelling into the past and hoping to rewrite it is a waste of a good present. Every past can’t be rewritten even with a time-turner. You can’t avoid everything no matter how much you try and one shouldn’t regret either because that is what wishing you could turn back the hands of time brings.
How do you think your friends would describe you?
Hahahahaha! I’m sure my friends will exhaust all the positively mind blowing adjectives there could be. Chief of all would be strong, which I didn’t think I deserve ‘cause I do cry behind closed doors. Each day I get to see is like there’s a higher power strengthening me to see another but recently, I get to think I deserved it no matter how little my journey has been compared to others. It’s still not irrelevant. So, they’d say, she’s strong, selfless, caring, intelligent, amazing, a great cook. . . and the list is endless.
Would you like to be famous? In what way?
Yes, I would love to be ‘famous’ as a woman who was unashamedly vocal about her journey for the kingdom’s sake and as that Best-Selling Author and Renowned Speaker whose written and spoken words pour healing to many wounds and helped people especially women discover themselves beyond their mistakes and pain. I think that is fame enough for me.
Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
Not really maybe I would have if every dream I had as a growing girl happened like I wished. . . but now I kinda wish it didn’t happen ‘cause I would have been too ordinary. . . So, I’m more realistic and intentional now. . . no more dreams!(lol).
Would you be willing to have horrible nightmares for a year if you would be rewarded with extraordinary wealth for a lifetime? Why or Why not?
No, I won’t. . . had enough horrible daymares. . . don’t think I’m up for nightmares. . . who extraordinary wealth epp? It is the blessings of the Lord that maketh rich adding no sorrow – supernatural wealth (that’s what I want) and it won’t require nightmares (lol).