Nollywood actress, Dakore Egbuson left the movie industry for a while to fully commit to nurturing her marriage and her new family. Following her comeback, she has featured in many movies including “FIFTY,” and the recently premiered movie, “ISOKEN,” where she is the lead actress.
In an interview with Genevieve Magazine, the mother of two girls talked about marriage, motherhood, her career, and other issues.
Read excerpts below.
Marriage has made me more patient and accepting of mine and others’ flaws for sure. The biggest myth people hold about marriage is that they live happily forever after! That only happens as a result of a lot of love and hard work, so, mills and boons novels and Disney movies do not make a marriage work but communication, joint interests, date nights, working together as a team in raising our daughters does help keep the love alive, well and growing.
ON MOTHERHOOD AND SELF-IMAGE
My body image didn’t correspond with the person I saw staring at me in the mirror. I went the lifestyle change route. I started swapping out white carbs for brown, more fruits and veggies, exercising more with yoga then reformer pilates and walking.
And it worked so much that by the time I was pregnant with my second, it was a bit easier…. This isn’t about becoming tiny just for others to appreciate, which (in itself) does not hurt at all…
For me to be all things to everyone, I have to be alright with myself. You can’t give what you don’t have. It is important to nurture yourself as a mom. My alone time is crucial for me. Even if it is a 30-minute walk or meditation, spa day or whatever, I make time for me. I find that nurturing myself helps me to be both a (better) wife and a mom as well as being a daughter, sister, business person, and friend, with my faith in God being the compass and foundation at the core of my being.
And it is that core that makes total respect and honour for others, regardless of class, tribe or creed. I think it is the basis of a lot of problems in this world.