Married at 20-years old, Chika Ike thought she had found love in her ex-husband and they got married in 2006.
Five years later, Chika filed for divorce as a result of infidelity and domestic violence. According to her, her husband beat her so much she thought she would die, having lost two pregnancies.
In an interview with TW MAGAZINE, Chika speaks on her failed marriage and her thoughts on re-marrying.
Read excerpts below!
ON HER MARRIAGE
I just wanted to do it the right way. I thought we had that fairytale love which people say exists. I realized that when people marry young, they marry for the wrong reasons and it doesn’t tend to work out. At first, it was okay, but then it was more of a lot of things- infidelity on his part and the battery too. In fact, I was still trying to understand what was going on.
ON HOW SHE COPED WITH HER TROUBLES
I was working like a mad person. I had no breaks. Most times, I’ll just get home, do my wifey duties then go back to work. People started asking why I was working a lot, but they didn’t understand that I was using my work as a cover for the emotional pain I was going through in my marriage.
I’m a very reserved person, so, I couldn’t even tell anyone about it. It took me five years to tell my mom. It was a lot of emotional struggle, and I was losing weight. I also lost my two babies when I had a miscarriage.
I was at the lowest point in my life. I was at the point between “Chika, do you want to speak out for yourself, or do you want to just continue?” when the battery became too much, my mother came to my house and packed my load for me and said, ‘enough is enough.’ I used to call her around 3:30 a.m to come to my house to see what had happened.
I told her, “Mummy, this man is going to kill me,” because he threw a jug at me and I dodged it. That was where my life flashed in front of my eyes, and it dawned on me that, “this man might kill me.”
I was really worried because I was considering my mother’s church, her members, what they will say about me, what will happen if they find out that I am out of marriage. A lot of things were going through my mind. Then, I cared so much what people would say.
It took me three years to get my divorce papers. He did not want to let me go.
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