Media personality, Toke Makinwa tweeted about how excited she is about her sister’s wedding, which is coming up soon and a follower commented, asking her not to give her relationship advice because her marriage failed.
In defense of why she can give her sister relationship advice, Toke explained the need for people to stop shaming victims, especially when they are women.
Nigerians and the constant need to promote the “Shame culture”, no wonder a lot of people die in silence for the fear of being judged.
We blame the woman for everything. Her marriage didn’t work equals she’s in no position to talk about marriage
Some men are on their 4th/5th marriages with babies left right center and we hail them and absorb them off wrong. #Stoptheshameculture
People die in silence for the fear of being ridiculed, you are not what happened to you, it happened for you to get to where you are
They say “don’t give relationship advice cos yours did not work”, perhaps the knowledge of why it failed can …
Kind of reminds me of how if you didn’t do well in school your parents are quick to remind you when they see you having fun
One semester I flunked.
Me: Can I go play at my friend’s house?”
Mom: if it is your books now you will fail, all you know is play play.