Adebayo Faleti died at 86 and he was a poet, journalist, writer and actor. He wrote, produced and acted in several popular Yoruba plays including Thunderbolt: Magun (2001), Afonja (1 & 2) (2002), Basorun Gaa (2004), and Sawo-Segeri (2005), among others.
His wife of over 30 years, Olubunmi Faleti, spoke to The Nation about how she met her husband, how they got married despite her parent’s objection to their marriage and the love they shared.
In form five, Faleti wooed Olubunmi, but she refused at first because she wanted to further her education beyond secondary level. After several months of persistence from Faleti, she gave in.
On her mother,
When I took in for him, I never knew how I was going to tell my parents at home but my mother observed me well and then challenged me asking if I was pregnant. Reluctantly, I said ‘Yes.’
My parents chased me out at midnight, around 1 am. They chased me out of the house naked. My father ran after me but I ran as fast as I could. I took refuge in the house of one of my father’s church members, Mrs. Joke Ishola. I had taken a rag from somewhere along the road to cover my nakedness. When I got to her house around 2am, she was shocked to see me but she accommodated and clothed me.
On the love they shared,
We were so close to the extent that I wore his pants and underwear. Up until his death, if you come to our house very early in the morning, maybe around 6am, I wear his clothes all around the house before getting dressed or set for the day’s activities. Baba was always willing to give me his Buba to wear. We were so close.
We were very close during his lifetime. From the time my parents sent me out after I took in for him, he accepted me and my child and promised me that no hurt will come to me. He fulfilled his promises.
Since we got married, I don’t eat alone, I will only eat when he gets back from work. He does the same thing by not eating out until he gets home because he knew I wouldn’t eat until he gets back from work.
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