You may not believe in other people’s way of life, but that does not mean you should harm them for it. As long as they are not committing a criminal act against you or others, they are entitled to their choices, as you are to yours’.
Rita, a Nigerian lesbian is afraid for her life, after her ex-husband threatened to deal with her for leaving their marriage. She divorced her ex-husband after the death of her father, who knew she was a lesbian but forced her into getting married.
She narrated her ordeal to NoStringsNG, a Nigerian advocacy media platform for LGBTIQ;
I knew I was a lesbian, but my father pressured me into getting married. I did not have the energy to fight him by refusing, so I obliged. But when he died, I felt that there was no need for me to continue with the marriage since I did not love the man I was married to.
After the divorce, I moved away from him and got my own apartment. He swore to deal with me, and never took it well. He kept on sending me threatening text messages and kept on stalking me. I reported him to his family, but nothing changed.
He came right into my bedroom and started shouting and taking pictures. We were not doing anything. We were just gisting [chatting]. My girlfriend had just a towel on her. I quickly asked her to get up and leave. He came outside and shouted that he now had evidence to ruin me. The neighbors gathered to watch what was going on.
He left a few minutes later and then came back with the police, who arrested me and took me to the station. At the station, I was abused by the police officers. Then they locked me in a room along with other girls. I slept on the cold tiled floor for four days. It was a weekend and they said that I could not get bail on weekends.
I paid N62, 000 [about $172] before I was bailed out. I have been asked to come back to the station at a set date to deal with the matter. I am so afraid right now and I cannot take up the case against my ex-husband, because he is a crazy person and well-connected too. He knows where I live and where I work. I do not know what he might do to me. He said that he can even kill me and nothing will happen to him in Nigeria.