Outspoken

The Strength of Womanhood…

   

 

By Ejiro Sharon Okotie

It was the second week in December 1953, warming up for the Christmas celebrations. Daniel and Dorris welcomed their baby girl called Caroline. Daniel was a very handsome man, held a chieftaincy title in his community, and had four wives. Dorris was the second of his wives and he loved her dearly. Unlike other female children at that time, Caroline was fortunate to acquire an education. Daniel was educated and believed education was the legacy any parent could give to their child, regardless of being male or female. As such, all Daniel’s children attended school and attained different levels of education. He was well to do, and provided all thirty-seven of his children with all the pleasures of life.

Caroline was one of Daniel’s favourite children. She was very petite in size but very beautiful. She was soft spoken, brilliant, and loved to study, hence capturing the heart of her father. Caroline completed her A-Levels in a teaching profession and had plans of furthering to the University. She met Clement, a young medical surgeon who had just returned from abroad. He too was tall, handsome, eloquent, and most importantly, very intelligent, which was what captivated Caroline. They fell in love and Clement proposed marriage. He promised Caroline that she would complete her education from his house, as his wife. Blinded by love, with so much trust, she accepted and they got married. She was much envied by her family and friends. She had it all, married to a rich, handsome, highly educated man. Also to add, Clement was the only man who owned a Jaguar car which was the latest at the time. This was every woman’s dream!

Then reality struck and this bed was not one of roses as Caroline imagined. Her seemingly perfect life gradually began to turn ugly. Her dream of furthering her education was aborted with childbearing and other wifely responsibilities. In addition, she also had to deal with Clement’s frequent anger tantrums, verbal and emotional abuses, and hatred for her family. He never let them visit. She lost everything: her dreams of education, her friends, her loving family, and herself in its entirety. All efforts to maintain peace in this home proved abortive. The last straw that broke the camel’s back was having to share her husband with two other women. Clement married two other wives and life became even worse. She was eventually thrown out of the house heavily pregnant. Clement refused to take her back and that was the end of this unpleasant journey which started radiantly. Caroline who used to be full of smiles, calm, and very charming had evolved into a very sad, gloomy, and unhappy woman with no hope for the future. She was only thirty-one years old at the time.

She swore to never give Clement the last laugh. She gave birth to a set of twin girls and had three girls in total for Clement.

Leaving the children with her mother, when they turned one-year old, Caroline moved to the Northern part of the country with her elder sister. She was determined to rebuild her life and create a better future for her girls. She took back her children and began raising them herself. Enduring so many hardships, from losing her only son to the lack of basic needs like befitting clothes and so on. She opened a small grocery store where she sold fruits, food stuff, and other items. This phase of Caroline’s life she hated so much, because she had to struggle at the farmers’ market to buy her products for the grocery store. This was not the life she envisaged for herself.

Nevertheless, she kept looking forward with so much optimism and support from her family, who never abandoned her at this trying time. Eventually, some ray of light!!! Caroline secured a job with the State’s Civil Service using her A-levels degree, which meant better income and a befitting quality of life for her and her children. She worked there for several years. In pursuit of her dream, at age fifty Caroline enrolled in a university to pursue a degree in Accountancy along with her girls, who were now grown. She graduated the same year as her second daughter, and proceeded to attain a professional certification as a chartered accountant. At fifty-seven, not only was Caroline a chartered accountant, but all her girls were graduates too.

Today, all three of her girls are Masters degree holders and established women in different walks of life. Her oldest daughter is married with two girls also. Caroline like so many women in Africa, weathered the storm with determination, hard work, and indeed God’s grace. She changed the gloomy story of her life to one of motivation for her girls, other women in Africa, and the world at large.

I am indeed very proud to be one of the daughters of this great and courageous woman, my role model and inspiration. She continues to inspire me in the work I do today.

I respect the labour of womanhood and the strength that lies therein. Promoting and protecting the rights of women is my life-long vision and commitment. I believe every woman deserves to live their dreams!

============================

Ejiro Sharon Okotie is the CEO/Founder of the Hope Inspired Foundation for Women and Youth (HIFWY), a 2015 Mandela Washington Fellowand has a passion to empower women and youth particularly those with Disabilities, for productive living and equal participation in society. Since inception, the Hope Inspired Foundation, has helped to economically empower about a hundred women with Disabilities in Delta state through the Entrepreneurship and Business Startup project as well as projects for youth employment to ensure income generation for improvement in their standard of living. Ejiro has actively involved herself in mentoring young girls in schools through the InspireLife project and her participation in other programmes like the Africa for Her; Maurra Mentor and the goal achievers girls group, helping them develop life skills to make informed decisions, set goals and aspirations andmaximize  their potentials. Ejiro holds a Master’s Degree in Public and International Affairs from the University of Lagos, a lover of music and presently lives in Lagos.

 

Promote your business to Nigerian women. Put your Text AD here.

5 Comments

5 Comments

  1. Precious Billy

    Precious Billy

    September 6, 2017 at 1:11 pm

    So nice

  2. Martha Konlaan

    Martha Konlaan

    September 6, 2017 at 7:51 pm

    Great

  3. Chukwu Christy

    Chukwu Christy

    September 6, 2017 at 9:20 pm

    Wow

  4. Bisola Olasunkanmi

    Bisola Olasunkanmi

    September 6, 2017 at 9:48 pm

    Nice one

  5. Pingback: The Strength of Womanhood – YaLa Africa Press

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

One of our favourite quotes at Woman.NG is a line from Emeli Sande’s Read All About It; “If you’ve got the heart of a lion, why let your voice be tamed?” This has inspired us to publish Nigerian women’s take on about everything. From conceiving a child to burying an old loved one and every life experience in between them - Nigerian women’s stories, opinions, issues, debates, advice, news etc. Read More >>

For Adverts & Enquiries:

- Product Reviews
- Pre & Post Event Publicity
- Sponsored posts
- Advert and Promotions
- Partnerships
- General Enquiries
Email: info@woman.ng
08177780045

Contact Us

Do you have a question for our editors?
Want your personal stories or opinions to be published on woman.ng?
Think you have what it takes to work with us?
Want to advertise your products or services on woman.ng?

Please contact us: info@woman.ng

Copyright © 2015 Woman.NG. Designed by Soft Runner

To Top