When we talk about domestic violence, many think about physical abuse but Nollywood actress, Uche Ogbodo is opening our eyes to other kinds of abuse that we easily overlook.
In an interview with Bolatito Adebayo of The Sun, Uche explained that she suffered psychological abuse from the man she was engaged to and had to walk away when she couldn’t take it anymore.
….I don’t even know what love is. I don’t even know if love is real. I can feel it but I don’t know if it is real. I’m better now. Believe me, I’m at a better place than I was some years ago.
I was numb for a long time but I am healing gradually. I am not fully healed, but I’m healing because the experience was bad. I’m not somebody that talks too much about my downfalls and failures. But right now, I’m scared; I’m very scared.
If there was abuse in the relationship
You know, I wasn’t married. I was just engaged but the media attacked me as a married woman. But in the relationship I had there was no abuse. Well, there would have been abuse because there are different kinds of abuse like I do say, but it doesn’t have to be physical. If I am allowed to say that lying and deceit are a form of abuse then I will tag it psychological abuse. He was messing with my head; all the depression that came with it makes it an abuse. So yes, I think he was probably abusive because I wasn’t concentrating, I didn’t know what I was doing.
On her breaking point
The breaking point would be when I found out that he was never going to be different from who he was. He was not ready to make amends. Of course, I knew about his flaws despite the fact that he was lying to cover up some things. But I was ready to patch things up with him if he was ready to change. You see, I have worked so hard and I didn’t want to go down. I knew this because I was strong. I could push but he wasn’t ready.
Read full interview on The Sun