“Friends Failed Me… I Broke. I Was Broken. I Was Angry. I Was Bitter. I Was Alone. Loveless” – Sola Allyson On Finding The Great Love That Changed Her Life


A father is the protector of his child but what happens when a child is denied of her father’s love and everything he is supposed to offer?

Gospel singer, Sola Allyson speaks on how her father failed her and how she found the love of God.

She wrote,

I did not enjoy an earthly Father’s love. I was denied of his total attention and provision. When the bullies of life threw their jabs, I fought alone, tooth and nail, with none to guide and guard me. I soiled my hands repeatedly.

The ones I looked up to for mentorship were not sensitive enough to see that beauty laid beneath my odd mien and ways. I was judged by what was seen of me. Transfer of grace was even out of the picture. Friends failed me… I broke. I was broken. I was angry. I was bitter. I was alone. Loveless.

BUT something happened! My attention was drawn to “something” that had been there but I wasn’t really into. True love! I discovered true love! Of The Father! The Father! The One Whose love is sure and can never fail.

It was difficult for me at the beginning to trust HIM, because the ones I could see and first trusted failed me; so how should I give my heart again? I became “strong” and wouldn’t give my heart again! And to “someone” I cannot see?

See also: Sola Allyson’s Note On Why She Used To Run From People Who Wanted To Help Her Will Touch Your Heart

Well, I am a factual person, so I told HIM so! I let HIM know I was afraid to lean on “anyone” again! And, in HIS kindness, although in a stern way, HE held my hand in the journey. My soul became lighted! I got help! HE taught me to trust HIM.

Long journey. Bends. Corners. Ups and downs. But steady. Strict but Sure. HE brings people my way to serve purposes and fill the spaces! Oh, I so honor those very few people because I know they are sent to me!

I am still learning to trust HIM the more. This flesh and mind, hen?
But, with HIM I am SURE. I trust HIM with my heart, and my life, my whole being.

And, oh, it’s turning out beautifully! The beauty beneath is unfolding. The trash is gone almost. The dirt is wiped off. The broken pieces are mended, whole again! I am free! Loosed!

Are you like I was? Are you like that right now? Come! Wa wole! Beautiful things you never could imagine would unfold before your own very eyes! Not the fleeting feeling of a jar of clay!

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  1. Foláníyì Àbèní

    Foláníyì Àbèní

    October 17, 2017 at 4:18 pm

    This is just the story of my life😠

  2. Hope Raphael

    Hope Raphael

    October 17, 2017 at 4:26 pm

    we same

  3. Sola Adeboyejo

    Sola Adeboyejo

    October 17, 2017 at 4:29 pm

    Thank God , the father of the fatherless

  4. Faustina C. Anyaoha

    Faustina C. Anyaoha

    October 17, 2017 at 4:54 pm


  5. Akinsuroju Elizabeth

    Akinsuroju Elizabeth

    October 17, 2017 at 5:16 pm

    This is the story of my life!

  6. Elebijo Grace

    Elebijo Grace

    October 17, 2017 at 5:17 pm

    Mmmm it’s well with you

  7. Blessing Okogho

    Blessing Okogho

    October 17, 2017 at 5:50 pm


  8. Precious Adaeze Pius

    Precious Adaeze Pius

    October 17, 2017 at 6:18 pm

    God remains father to the fatherless✌✌…. it is well

  9. Uduak George

    Uduak George

    October 17, 2017 at 6:59 pm

    I have similar experiences

  10. Uduak George

    Uduak George

    October 17, 2017 at 7:03 pm

    God is awesome, when earthly mother and father is not there, we only turn to God, that exactly my story

  11. Joy Atabo

    Joy Atabo

    October 17, 2017 at 7:27 pm


  12. Opemipo Oyedele

    Opemipo Oyedele

    October 17, 2017 at 8:23 pm

    Mhmm, same here…but God is faithful

  13. Nzeribe Victory

    Nzeribe Victory

    October 17, 2017 at 9:06 pm


  14. Imoh Inuaesiet

    Imoh Inuaesiet

    October 17, 2017 at 9:59 pm

    Hello…. But God has my back despite everything, that’s my satisfaction

  15. Nansik Ponjul Dodo

    Nansik Ponjul Dodo

    October 18, 2017 at 8:00 am

    Had the same experience, no one was there but I saw Him each time I left my eyes to the Haven. He was there always to comfort me. Thank you Jesus

  16. Adebowale Adebimpe

    Adebowale Adebimpe

    October 18, 2017 at 10:49 am

    You are a strong woman. Please follow luciouskincsare for your skin problem. Organic Black soap is working wonders

  17. Adefowoju Janet

    Adefowoju Janet

    October 18, 2017 at 11:18 am


  18. Ann Bobo Daniel

    Ann Bobo Daniel

    October 18, 2017 at 12:16 pm

    Jesus said I will be with you always… God never keeps his eyes off his children, earthly pp will neglect u but our heavily father will never stay away from us.

  19. Nwagboso Annabel

    Nwagboso Annabel

    October 18, 2017 at 12:59 pm

    At least you have a courageous story to tell…#life#

  20. Praise Green

    Praise Green

    October 19, 2017 at 1:17 am

    May God console ur hrt

  21. Enoobong Okorie

    Enoobong Okorie

    October 19, 2017 at 8:53 pm

    Everyone goes thru tough times and some of us go thru worst situations but I am happy you made it and you are a strong woman.

  22. Ijeoma Ngwu

    Ijeoma Ngwu

    October 21, 2017 at 3:09 am

    Total dependence on Christ,I found peace.

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