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Pregnant, Abandoned, Homeless, Jobless And HIV Positive – Mary Needed Help Desperately And Banky W Showed Up When Others Ignored Her


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We are all where we are today because someone helped us, and we owe it to the world to pass on that kindness to other people.  Mary Ero, a media personality and HIV/AIDS positivity advocate,  will never forget in a hurry how help came through for her when she lost all.

Recalling how her daughter’s father abandoned her when she was 6 months pregnant and diagnosed as HIV positive; losing her job and evicted from her home; Mary said, only two persons came through for her among the many celebrity friends she had.

Today, she took out time to celebrate Banky Wellington, one of the two persons that came to her aid in her time of crisis.

She wrote,

So today this happened. On the surface it might look like an ordinary celebrity / child-of-starstruck-parent photo opp but there is a deeper story here. About 8 years ago, while about 6 months pregnant with this little girl here, I fell onto terribly hard times.

I have chronicled most of it on my social media platforms but to summarise it, I was abandoned by my child’s father, lost my house, was kicked out unceremoniously from my job at MTV for no reason, and to crown it all, diagnosed HIV positive.

Shortly after that, my then best friend, with whom I was staying, decided she had had enough so I was given an eviction notice. Long story short, I began to reach out to my friends and acquaintances to try to pick up the pieces, get a place to stay, deliver safely and move on.

Suffice it to say that practically none of my celebrity ‘friends’ ever came through. These were people who would call me non-stop when I was in MTV but suddenly, I was invisible. The only people that did were this man, @bankywellington, and @funlolafar. (Funlola I don’t consider a friend but a sister, or worst case my cousin anyway.)

What was funny is that both of them had no knowledge of the situation I was in. I think this will be the first time Banky will be hearing of it. I just told him I was trying to raise money for a place, I think.

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In those days @bankywellington had not even come close to being as successful as he is now. Yet the next morning, before 7am, he had driven from his place in Lekki, to my house in Magodo with cash for me. And as usual, a hug.

Now one reason people are scared to ask for help especially money from friends is that the dynamics of the relationship changes after someone has helped you out. People who give suddenly feel somewhat superior to the receiver or even feel that the receiver is a tiresome distraction.

Not all the time but a lot of the time. However, with Banky there was never that awkwardness. I met him several more times as I managed to get back on my feet over the years and he never behaved like anything like that transpired between us. He was always warm, always hugging, always kind.

Today at ICM which I took my daughter to entirely by coincidence, I ran into him doing his ambassador duties at the Samsung stand. This would be the first time he would see my daughter ever. I had no intentions of her taking pics with him but he just grabbed her and asked ‘where’s your camera’?

Then he bagan to tell her how he and I go way back. It was all I could do not to cry a little. As we left, my daughter asked “Is he a famous person”? I said “Yes. But more importantly, he is a good person.”



  1. Marianne Ahamefule

    Marianne Ahamefule

    October 4, 2017 at 10:06 am

    Affliction shall not rise a second time. Stay strong! 💪

  2. Rhoda Iyiola

    Rhoda Iyiola

    October 4, 2017 at 12:53 pm

    Dis one weak me just stay strong girl

  3. Imoh Inuaesiet

    Imoh Inuaesiet

    October 4, 2017 at 1:10 pm

    You alone…

  4. Sheriphat Harmony

    Sheriphat Harmony

    October 4, 2017 at 1:33 pm

    Oh God that’s much, thanks to Mr Banky.

  5. Lilian Amadi-chibuike

    Lilian Amadi-chibuike

    October 4, 2017 at 1:45 pm

    Thankyou bankyw where ever u are may my God bless you

  6. Enoobong Okorie

    Enoobong Okorie

    October 4, 2017 at 3:08 pm

    Very touchy. May the good lord step into the boat of banky and remember him for his seed of help to this lady.

  7. Enoobong Okorie

    Enoobong Okorie

    October 4, 2017 at 3:10 pm

    To the lady, be strong all hope is not lost. This is the beginning of more blessings and favour for you. Take care

  8. Mary Lyn

    Mary Lyn

    October 4, 2017 at 6:56 pm

    Mary’s are actually strong people

  9. Funmilola Olasupo Owolabi-Peter

    Funmilola Olasupo Owolabi-Peter

    October 4, 2017 at 7:37 pm

    Hearty cheers

  10. Eunice Oha Okafor

    Eunice Oha Okafor

    October 5, 2017 at 8:31 am


  11. Nancy Dabo

    Nancy Dabo

    October 5, 2017 at 9:42 am

    I had tears in my eyes reading this. God will come through fir you and your daughter. Banky has a gift of kindness. God bless him.

  12. Mpiima Annabella Mpiima

    Mpiima Annabella Mpiima

    October 5, 2017 at 8:44 pm

    Big up to banky w

  13. Cheryl Smith

    Cheryl Smith

    October 8, 2017 at 1:25 am

    God will give you all of his blessings

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