It is sad that in Nigeria many people believe that marriage is the greatest achievement a woman can attain in life, and they are expected to do everything, including giving up their dream to make sure they get married.
Not all Nigerian women have unlearned this notion.
A twitter user, @Kelvinodanz, shared the story of a woman who committed suicide after her husband divorced her and she was left with noting.
Meanwhile, when she just graduated from school, she had opportunities to travel abroad and make something good out of her career but her husband refused. Two years into their marriage and without a child, her husband left her. The heartbreak of loosing it all, made her take her own life.
The worst decision a lady can make is giving up her dreams for marriage. You’d live to regret it. Here’s a story
There’s this lady. Brilliant Igbo lady. She got engaged to this successful (fairly educated) businessman in her 3rd year.
It was one of those relationships that the whole extended family is aware of. Common among Igbos in Eastern Nigeria. Communalism.
So this lady graduated and served in Lag. While she was serving, she got a fully sponsored traineeship in Germany.
But the plan was that they’d get married immediately after NYSC. So the fiancé (as at then) refused that shed go. And that one went
Then they got married. The company through which she got the sponsored traineeship offered her a Job. She was that good. Hot cake
Again, the Husband refused. He said she can’t work in Lagos while he lives in Abakiliki. And “he is capable of taking care of her.”
The whole extended family backed the Husband. They have been married for just six months, he is rich, she will get another job and blah blah
So she agreed, declined the job offer, settled down in Abakiliki with her husband for a happy ever after. Only that it was not so….
Two years after marriage, she could not bear him a child. They tried what they could. Husband got frustrated
Frustration led to verbal and physical abuse. And then he divorced her and got himself a new wife. She was left with nothing.
No traineeship. No Job. No Husband. Just depression and misery. Last I heard, she committed suicide. Took an overdose of drugs.
Sad end to the story. Don’t ever give up your dream for marriage. Marriage is not an achievement. #WomenNotSlaves