To celebrate 10 years after singer, Asa’s record-breaking debut album, media personality, Funmi Iyanda released an interview she had with Asa in 2015.
There, Bukola Elemide, popularly called Asa revealed that she lost her virginity at 28 and how she lost it.
She also talked about her preference in men.
Read excerpts below
At that time, it was nobody, it was just a dream, a fantasy. Just projecting what I wanted. That was a time in my life where I said if you want to find somebody, you have to get up, go out and search. I was always sitting in the house, hoping one day he would open the door.
And I remember a comedian who made a joke and said girls, when they are 20, they don’t care, they have a list of the kind of person they want and I had a list, I want a tall guy, dark and handsome. And at 25, I started to tweak it a little but I was still a little bit tough. He has to be tall and I don’t want no artiste.
And at 28, I said if he is 4ft tall, I’m okay but he should be able to buy me my shoes and bags, because at 25, I had already started buying all those things and I said I don’t want a man who I would have to take care of.
And at 28, that was when I called Janet my manager, and I said there was a problem. I called my mom, there is a problem. And I told her so many things that she was shocked that I was actually a very late starter and my mum had no advice and the only thing she could shyly say was, “hmm, it could be painful at first.”
I did nothing until I was 28 and I’m ashamed to say it.
I was shy and I was somewhere else, I was in a place where I needed to carry the world on my shoulder and I needed to be straight and focus on my career so I wasn’t thinking about that at aspect. And of course, I was still sitting in the house thinking he would come up and I would say I am here for you, I’ve been keeping it for you.
After 28, I took everything back and it was good and its been good since. I didn’t stop. I’m a late starter. When I was a little girl, I wasn’t allowed to be a little girl. At that age, I was a woman already. I was already standing on a stool to cook for my family.
And my mum always told me since I was born, “so, you’re gonna to be someone’s wife, so this is how you’re gonna be doing.” So, I’ve always been groomed to be someone’s wife and nt myself. And at 28, can you imagine I’m talking to my mum that there is a problem and she thought that when I was 18, and I tell her I was going to the studio, she says “that’s what you do, always going to the studio, I know what you’re up to,”and it hurt me because, “mum I’m doing this for you” and she didn’t understand and also there was a news that she is a ‘lesbian’
What hurt me most is that I had not tried it yet and they’d given me a name. So at 28, I decided, I chose it. I said, “you come here, this is what you gonna do, we don’t have to be friends and after the business is done, we shake hands and do not call me until I call you.”
Watch full interview here