The church is regarded as a sacred place of refuge for everybody but what happens when men on the altar are demons disguised as angels?
Unlike years before, many women are speaking out on sexual abuse and this discussion has moved to the church. Surprisingly, with testimonies from a lot of women on twitter, the church has contributed one way or the other to the rate of rape in our society.
Following the #churchtoo hashtag, women share their sexual abuse stories in the church, the church’s reaction to it and protecting the perpetrator.
15 responses from women were extracted.
My friend was raped by her youth pastor. She told the church leadership. Turned out she was the 3rd victim.Their solution? She should forgive him; and she and the other victims should stand before the congregation with their attacker and say it was consensual.#churchtoo
— Jennifer K. Akuamoah (@J_Akuamoah) November 24, 2017
Men in the church told me my clothing determined the level of respect I deserve.
They groped & touched me for a literal decade.#churchtoo
— netflix&shrill (@andeemoriah) November 21, 2017
Too many #churchtoo to share them all, but here are a few examples:
I was abused, starting at age 2 by my father, a church elder & seminary teacher.
I could not even find words or make sense of any of it until I was in my 30's.
— M (@HopeLoveJustice) November 21, 2017
I was sexually abused by a pastor. When reported, the social worker chose to protect the minister instead of my 7yo body. Bcs of that, the abuse continued for years. Kids deserve better. #churchtoo
— Robin Anderson (@RobinAnderson15) November 22, 2017
I was raped when I was 9 by a member of my church. The pastor, and my parents, told me I needed to forgive him, as that is what Jesus would do. They made me hug my rapist and tell him I forgave him.#churchtoo
— Darlene what's with all the pedos and nazis Darrow (@darcorina) November 22, 2017
I was 13 and the pastor’s daughter. A prominent church member molested me and I reported him to the church. The church covered it up, fired my father, and made the church member an elder. #ChurchToo
— Emily McGlawn (@emilymcglawn) November 23, 2017
I was in a church that sexually abused many kids and beat more. One member beat James Gill to death for 4 hours while I listened. 8 people went to prison, including my mother.#churchtoo
— Josh Riley (@brouchomops) November 22, 2017
When a Youth Pastor's wife (whom I admired) gave me a 4-page letter telling me to hide my figure when around her husband bc I might cause him to sin. I told my mother. She scolded the wife. The wife "apologized" by giving me another letter on female modesty. I was 17. #ChurchToo
— Jonee Ripperger (@Jonee614) November 22, 2017
Because I witnessed a 5 year old call out her rapist (the youth minister) in the middle of services and rather than the congregation take her claims seriously they scolded her and accused of her of lying. Her words were “that’s the man that made my pee pee hurt” #Churchtoo
— Nene 📎 (@imthetallone123) November 23, 2017
Seven years ago, during a church service, I was on the receiving end of a public confession from a close male friend who admitted to having fantasies about molesting and raping me.
He was immediately praised for his bravery and holiness.
— Jamie Lee Finch (@jamieleefinch) November 21, 2017
My youth leaders got angry at me for speaking up because it meant my rapist wasn’t allowed to attend youth group or serve on the worship team anymore. #churchtoo
— Morgan Lynn Sutter (@emilynn7) November 21, 2017
At a friend’s youth group, in response to a talk on purity and modesty, l went with tears in my eyes to a female volunteer. l shared that l had been raped and felt shame about not being pure. She responded by asking if l had repented of my role in what happened. #churchtoo
— Shannon DINGLE BELL ROCK! (@ShannonDingle) November 21, 2017
#churchtoo A teacher and a esteemed member of the baptist church in grew up in was caught with a student. 4th grade. Others came forward. The church protected him. My best friend was one of his victims. She committed suicide in HS.
— Cindia (@peenyweeny1218) November 22, 2017
#churchtoo 2/2. Pastor told my mom I had seduced a man of god, should wear more modest clothing and be punished. She agreed. I was 11 years old. So thankful to be a free, secure pagan druid. Misogyny is not tolerated in our faith. I'll never darken a church door again.
— Eira L'osee-Fukuda (@FukudaEira) November 22, 2017
The most infuriating one of all: The man who raped me is now a pastor in Oklahoma. #churchtoo
— Samantha Field (@samanthapfield) November 21, 2017
Someone I love very much went to her pastor to tell him her stepfather was molesting her. It was the first time she reached out for help. It was also the last. Minister asked her what she'd done to "tempt" and "entice him". She was 11. #churchtoo
— Blaire Chandler (@blairezdoodle) November 22, 2017
#churchtoo: when I was told that I shouldn't have gone over to his house by myself. Not that they were sorry. Not that his role would be changed. Just that I shouldn't have gone over there alone (wearing a dress) because it caused him to be "overcome by lust"
— hannah (@hannahelisabeth) November 21, 2017
When my youth pastor was convicted of sexually enticing a 12-year old girl, a scared mother went to a church meeting for info. Instead, she watched him be hugged by every (male) church leader who then publicly announced: "We forgive you; we forgive you; we forgive you" #churchtoo
— Linda Kay Klein (@LindaKayKlein) November 28, 2017
Here is me. As public as I've ever been. #churchtoo
My rapist was a prominent evangelical pastor's son.
Afterward I had to go to @PPact because I needed free and confidential medical care.
The church shuns the second more than the first. It's a wonder I ever returned.
— Elizabeth (@EB_FindingMercy) November 22, 2017
I was 12 but it was viewed as cheating. I had to pray with my abusers wife for forgiveness. She was so disappointed that I broke her trust. #churchtoo
— Debbie McNulty (@DMcNulty70) November 22, 2017
When I was nannying for a Christian family I learned that a 6 yo child nearby was not welcome to play b/c she had been exhibiting “sexually inappropriate behavior”. When I realized no one had intervened for her I called DCFS. #churchtoo
— Issurah King (@1luv_above) November 22, 2017