“If You Have People Around You And They Are Not Telling You The Truth, Please Drop Them” – Toyin Abraham


From being a street hawker to an award-winning actress, Toyin Abraham has so much to be thankful for. even though her journey has been a mix of falling and rising, she is grateful for how far she has come.

Toyin, recently, was a guest speaker at the 2017 edition of Success Story Africa,  and there, she talked about her journey in the entertainment industry, the mistakes she made, how she rose from them and what youths should learn from it.

Despite having a rough childhood, Toyin says, she always knew she had a great future because she always told anyone who cared to listen that, “I am a star. You are looking at a star.”

Her dream to becoming an actress finally came through and she made headway in the film industry but she didn’t have plans.

“Coming into the industry, I made a lot of mistakes. Firstly, I had no plans; I was just coming into the industry because I wanted to be known. But today, I realize that being popular is not being successful. Last year, I couldn’t even boast of 1million,” she said.

When she came into the industry, she made a lot of money but spent them lavishly because she wanted to “feel among and buy the latest phones.”

She also shared how she silently competed with her colleagues, a phenomenon that is common among people in the entertainment industry.

One day, she was confronted by someone who told her that she needed to check her way of life. Realizing that she was not brought up that way, Toyin said, she had to change the people around her.

See also: “The Suffering I Went Through Back Then Is My Praise Today, The Tough And Difficult Life Is My Joy Today” – Toyin Abraham On Being Raised Without A Silver Spoon

“If you have people around you and they are not telling you the truth, please drop them. I had to change everybody around me and trust me, this change started in March this year and this is me.”

Thus, she advised her audience to set goals and plans for whatever they want to do in life, so as not to make the same mistakes she made.

Toyin acknowledged the amount of time she spends on social media as another mistake she made, urging youths to desist from doing the same.

“A lot of time, I forget I have pimples on my face, sometimes, I forget I have to brush my teeth because once I snap, I use filter. So I have forgotten that there is more to life. I lived on the internet.”

Allowing people’s opinion matter too much in her life is another mistake Toyin regrets. However, she has learnt to love herself and not be swayed or dejected by what people thinks of her.

She also explained that she allowed fame get into her head and she became irresponsible, which birthed another habit of taking codeine and other kinds of hard drugs.

“Last year was worse. I take codeine a lot, i had to stop it. I did drugs a lot, I had to stop it.”

Despite the mistakes she has made and the time wasted, Toyin is grateful to be on the right path again and be able to do all that she had wanted to do.

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  1. Doreen Dre

    Doreen Dre

    December 15, 2017 at 8:47 pm

    A lot of people don’t like the truth, they prefer to live in self denial. God help us all.

  2. Chichi Otabor

    Chichi Otabor

    December 15, 2017 at 9:18 pm

    Toyin toyin!

  3. Apeh Ogele

    Apeh Ogele

    December 16, 2017 at 8:13 am

    True tlk

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