“Wait, what is that on your face? Was it an accident?” are some of the questions 22 years old Nnabuife Henrietta gets to deal with when people see her face.
Henrietta is a beautiful, fair skinned lady with a large dark spot covering a side of her nose down to the top of her upperlip. Unashamed, she carries her birth mark with pride, irrespective of what people think or say.
“Please don’t don’t cover it,” she once told a makeup artiste.
For Henrietta, it took a while to get to that place because society told her she didn’t meet their standard of beautiful.
In a chat with Sola Abe of woman.ng, Henrietta shared how she has come to accept her birthmark as a part of her.
On covering her birthmark
I’ve actually done it before and it doesn’t look like me. I look at the mirror and see I’m completely different person and truth be told, I look too “Normal.” Plus, I don’t like to deceive or pretend to be someone I’m not because at the end of the day I am who I am and I cannot change.
If it affected her relationship with other kids, growing up
it was hard at first as a child not knowing or understanding why my face was like that. People always ask and my mom would say, tell them that’s how you were born, people grew used to it, people grew used to me. There were times I wished I didn’t have it because I felt I wasn’t pretty enough or I didn’t meet the society’s standard of beautiful.
So I hid in my shell, my insecurities. I became an introvert, didn’t want to do anything or go anywhere because people would see me and ask. It took most part of my life to finally accept my birthmark as a part of me, to finally embrace myself and “say I’m beautiful in my own way because God makes no mistakes. I’m on the right track I was born this way”
How people react when they see her
Some are usually like, ‘wait, what is that on your face? Was it an accident?’ Then I’d have to explain while others would be like, ‘wow you’re so pretty, I love your birthmark.’ Lastly, rude comments… I get a lot but I feel like the love outweighs the hate tho. Anyways I’ve gotten comments like you are disfigured or you’re not pretty. Or why you rub paint for face na fashion lol?