Erelu Mojisola Adams is the wife of Otunba Gani Adams, the leader of the popular pan African group, Oodua People’s Congress (OPC).
Nine years after she got married to her husband, Erelu welcomed a baby boy in 2012 after suffering from many miscarriages. Five years later, she welcomed a baby girl.
She shares her experiences with miscarriages and her journey to motherhood.
Initially, my husband was not moved and would always encourage me that God had the best plan for us but later when people started saying all sorts of nasty things, he became a bit troubled. Some people even said that he had used his spermatozoa in exchange for spiritual powers and that there was no way he could ever father a child. People said worse things but we kept calm. As a matter of fact, he endured and resisted pressure from several quarters for him to have a child outside our marriage.
I got to a stage that I was having a miscarriage once in three months and was constantly being taken to the hospital. There was a period I was placed on bed rest for three months and did not for once step outside that hospital ward. If I had to bath, the nurses would clean my body with bathe towels and water. It was a very painful and traumatic period for me. But even after all those, I still lost pregnancies.
However, when the time was ripe, God showed Himself strong and we are eternally grateful for the grace He gave us. We have a boy and a girl now.
On how she felt when she finally welcomed a baby
It was one of the most beautiful days anyone could imagine. The happiness and excitement that filled the atmosphere of our home could be felt with bare hands. There is no word to adequately describe the feeling.
In fact, up until the pregnancy was five months, I still nursed the fear of losing it because of the painful experiences I had before then. But after that period, my resolve became stronger and God perfected His work.
As a result of what I passed through looking for a child, I pray every day for women in similar shoes. I pray to God to show them mercy because I know and understand what it means to be in their shoes. Even my husband, as strong as people perceive him to be, the situation got to him at a point. I know this because immediately he became a father, everything about him changed. New life came to him. God showed us mercy; He will show other couples in similar situation even bigger mercy.
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