“I Want To Reach Back Through Time And Tell Her You Are Goddam Beautiful”- Funmi Iyanda Speaks On The Time In Her Life She Felt Unattractive


Sometimes, it’s hard to acknowledge your own beauty when you just don’t feel beautiful.

Underneath the confidence and intelligence was a raging inner battle on her physical appearance.  Media personality, Funmi Iyanda, in her younger years never felt beautiful and the fact that her partner never complimented her made it hard to acceptother people’s compliments

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Looking back now, she wished she could tell herself that she was beautiful.

She wrote,


I look at this picture in wonder because l used to think myself unattractive because many people said l was growing up.

This day took a lot of persuading by @frankosodirichard to get me in that dress. He did my make up and turban as l always wore my hair wild and refused makeup so l could be invisible. He used to tell me l was model material and beautiful, l did not believe him. Many people did but l distrusted them.

I was uncomfortable at that party and wary of any attention, l also had my passively manipulative partner telling me how long l should stay then driving over to pick me up in a cloud of seething anger. He never described me as beautiful, not once. I cannot believe l was that girl, no one would as l seemed confident, competent and outspokenly intelligent.

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I want to reach back through time and tell her you are goddam beautiful, hug and get her the hell out of that situation. She did make it out herself but it took years for her to be able to see and accept her beauty.

I might tell her full story some day, l might not but this bit is for all the boys and girls who are being stunted by other people’s fear/mis-interpretation of their beauty/glory/talents/knowledge/being. You are good honey, allow no-one tell you otherwise, keep going.

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  1. Anubanire47@gmail.com'


    January 7, 2018 at 6:08 pm

    Everything has to do with time…

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